Would you give up a fun activity with a friend,

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If that fun activity is something you've done with that friend for a while, but that friend does something that you hate, like brag about every landmark in their lives - which you're sure you wouldn't do if you were in their place?

First what is this 'fun activity'?

Could you not try and talk to said friend about this? Or failing that, perhaps go somewhere else to do this activity?

Writing, sorta. I can get how there seemed to me other meanings implied.


Could you not try and talk to said friend about this? - I'm not mentioning it to them now, though I've mentioned their general tendency to do that in the past. Watching that kind of behaviour kind of makes me want to be alone, but I'm able to hold back on it. I'm still not sure what I SHOULD do.

Or failing that, perhaps go somewhere else to do this activity? - Have done so a few times in the past, but with the current situation, I haven't reached that stage YET, as far as I know.

Hmmm, a tricky one. Is your friend bragging about things like sexual conquests? If that, just ask them if they could stop talking about it as it makes you feel uncomfortable. If they are talking about successes like awards and stuff, there's not much you can do I'm afraid. Unless you go something along the lines of 'Modesty is a extremely valued trait', which might cause some trouble

Are you in school/university? You could set up a writing night, where people turn up to read out what they have done so far. You could also involve people who like drama to do readings of short plays that people have written. Or if you're not in school, perhaps arrange a similar event with the community centre or with a theatre (if you're doing more plays than novels)?

I would probably say something like "We get that you are the God of all you view, but how about letting up on the play by play of your achievements for a little bit because it's getting old". Or "I hope you don't go on like that when you are with other people, because they might get the wrong idea about you and think you are some full of himself a**hole or something, when we both know you're not".

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OliveOilMum - I dig your suggestions, don't get me wrong. But it doesn't really feel like me Reading that and saying it in my head made me feel good, though.

Ghosters - It was more bragging about purchases of some kind. But I think i'll take your advice about community centre/theatre afternoon activity, it's something I've been leaning towards.

It depends on how offensive that thing was to me and how close I was to that person. It takes me a long time to truly feel comfortable with another person and if I'd invested a lot of time, I'd be much more likely to try to salvage the relationship.

However, if I wasn't that close to the person, I'd probably avoid the conflict and just walk away. It wouldn't mater how much fun the activity was, I have a really hard time being comfortable around people that I have issues with. It just loops in my head and becomes the dominant theme. I'm also not a big fan of confrontation.

I'm truly close to this person, but I do sometimes feel discomfort, and the need to switch off.

I broke off a friendship with someone because she was virulantly, irrationally anti gay. (I'm straight, but have gay friends as well as a conscience). I stopped going to a favorite diner because she hung out there, but it wasn't like I had to give up food.

Writing is a toughie. I know how important creativity and self expression can be to person. Can you find another writing partner or write solo?