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Hello everybody,

It has been a long time i've posted a thread. Reason for this is a busy period where I had to move twice with unclear intervals. Finally I have taken up residence for atleast the following two years.

But back at the subject at hand, after years and years of work I got almost all fronts covered in communication and socialisation... only a fatigue from socialising is hindering me from coming full circle no matter what. I can't seem to solve or work around this .

With a fatigue from socialising I mean that it drains me like I am depleted from energy, which results in losing suave, getting irritable, etc.

Any of you got answers in how to solve it or atleast work around this?

Read books about Aspies.

We need our batteries charged. Social situations drain us. It is best to have a job in some situation that is not all social. That is why school is such a problem. Strive for balance, look for time alone, breaks. Give some examples what your day is like and what is draining.

At work you are on your guard, the more socialization the more tired you become. Seems Aspies have a way of getting into jobs that don't really suit them. Look at books such as Aspies and Business or Aspergers on the job. There are many good ones on Amazon. It really helps, it helped me.

one situation that worked well for me was 12 hour shift followed by a whole day off to recharge. allowed me to work full-time (36 to 48 hours per week) without getting burned out.

I am currently in physical therapy due to ill health, I swim one hour a day, I got appointments with the fysiotherapist, go to get grocheries, no work or study due to ill health. Social fatigue was a problem before I got a ill health.

Any place with people make my energy levels drop faster than without people around. I got lots of workarounds for decreasing the depletion but hasn't solved my problem to this day.
Maintaining social contacts is my greatest issue, though necessary for social success - I have no real want to continuously keep in touch since this tires me gravely. I hate to keep telling people I don't dislike them I just can't endure the human contact within the desired intervals, resulting in troubled supply/demand in social maintanance.

I'll look into the books, might help. thanks.

Hello Wallourdes. I'm sorry that you are ill but I'm glad to see you posting again.

I'm struggling with energy levels, myself. I can socialise in bursts and then I go into myself. I've learned to not beat myself up about it. I don't know what helps other than not worrying too much (worrying takes energy, too).

I know all about this, as well. Currently my job requires me to socialize most of each day, and by end of day my brain is numb, and by end of week I'm so exhausted I can barely move. Even though there's almost no physical component to my job.

The only thing that saves me is coming home and doing some serious me-time. And for me that means being away from voices, so no TV, no radio, no people at all. I also get it as quiet as I can. And then I read and do other things to zone out on my interests - anything I can do total-focus on.

I think for me sometimes the socializing wears me out not only because I have to do so much work to understand and fake it for NTs, but also because it's like "multitasking" in many ways, which I am terrible at. So that's what I do: go home and "single-task" with deep, quiet, intensity until it's time for bed.

Wallourdes
I am very sorry, I had no idea it was that bad. I don't understand the draining/anxiety issue. For me I take a small dose of Fluxotine everyday. Same thing Temple Grandin takes and it helps with anxiety for us. I just wish there was a simple answer but unfortunately these things are far from simple. Please feel free to post more details, it might help others, I certainly enjoy reading your posts and I am sadden that I can't offer more helpful suggestions.

Bill