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AussieMatty
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09 Apr 2012, 11:29 pm

I feel that my life doesn't even matter to let to live. Its so annoying why my life has to be so restrictive in comparison to 'normal' NT life? Maybe death is worth thing to avoid risky businesses?

All the stuff what gets me so restrictive and limited as being doesn't matter in my life are:
Sex
Marriage
Relationship
Skinny dipping
Experiences
Common friendships

It so annoying that I can't get things what 'normal' people can get easily. Those stuff above makes me happier than happy originally, because that is part of the life! I knew so many people are getting married and just got married already. That include my family and friends. They are all in their 20s. My sister who is 24, she getting married this November. I got invited to be a grooms-man. I feel so awkward for that position, since that I always been single and virgin for entire life at age of 21 and it makes me look terribly happy in stupid way. Why I have to be single and virgin for everything? It makes me in worst position to be like 'handicapped' type of person? Why gets me so wrong.

f**k I hate this s**t, things kept saying to me that is not a big deal is a big deal to other people. Why it can't make it work to me? Why I can't get a girl and get married eventually?

Well this bad feel should end with death because it is big deal for everyone. So I can't get it and I don't want to wait too long in comparison to my family and friends as making me look so bad in worst position. I don't want to be still a same at 25, even 29! Thats so terrible!

Why life has to be so lack for me? I didn't even do anything wrong. Im not even an asexual human being. Im TOTALLY NORMAL!

End of rant...



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10 Apr 2012, 1:07 am

I realize you don't want to hear this, but be patient. What's the rush, enjoy your youth. Lot's of people don't have a romantic relationship or marriage until their 30s. I am in my 50s and never had one, but never wanted one. I prefer being solo. My older brother was never big on the dating scene and he only got married about 6 1/2 years ago! He is in his mid-upper 50s now. He did have one notable girl friend before that some years ago, but that didn't work out for religious reasons. Too bad, that girl was nicer than the lady he eventually did marry. :(

You need to get out and enjoy other aspects of life now, while you are young. It will help you meet people, too.

- Exercise. It will generate mood boosting endorphins.
- Read funny stories and watch funny shows. That also generates endorphins.
- Eat healthy, and limit caffeine and processed sugar. Those make people hyper, and cranky because it interferes with rest.
- Get plenty of rest. Being too tired makes people cranky.
- Volunteer. There are people out there worse off than we are. Also, it's a good way to meet people.
- Join a club--and no I don't mean a night club.
- Take courses, either in person or online. Some of the online ones are free.
- Take up a hobby. This can be a good way to meet people.
- Get involved in community events. Go to town meetings, go to events held at your local library, join a local theater group, go to fairs, get involved with local sports groups, join church groups, etc.

People are out there, but they won't just come up to your door and invite themselves into your life. You have to go part way. You have to go out where they are. And stay away from bars and night clubs. You won't meet a nice class of people there, and certainly not anyone who is looking for a serious relationship or even marriage.

But remember this, it will take time to find and develop friendships, and even more time to develop a serious relationship. This can't really be rushed, but you have plenty of time ahead of you. You are only 21, not 101! :lol:


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10 Apr 2012, 1:40 am

That's cause life doesn't matter. At the end of the day, were just a collection of minerals you can buy at your local convenience store.
And our purpose? We put our faith in books, BOOKS! Desperately clawing at any sign that there is a God of some sort looking out for us... BUT NO!!

I know where to get some weed, how about you and I smoke it together and hang out. That will probably be the most fulfilling thing we'll both ever do in our miserable lives.


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10 Apr 2012, 4:37 am

questor wrote:
I realize you don't want to hear this, but be patient. What's the rush, enjoy your youth. Lot's of people don't have a romantic relationship or marriage until their 30s. I am in my 50s and never had one, but never wanted one. I prefer being solo. My older brother was never big on the dating scene and he only got married about 6 1/2 years ago! He is in his mid-upper 50s now. He did have one notable girl friend before that some years ago, but that didn't work out for religious reasons. Too bad, that girl was nicer than the lady he eventually did marry. :(

You need to get out and enjoy other aspects of life now, while you are young. It will help you meet people, too.

- Exercise. It will generate mood boosting endorphins.
- Read funny stories and watch funny shows. That also generates endorphins.
- Eat healthy, and limit caffeine and processed sugar. Those make people hyper, and cranky because it interferes with rest.
- Get plenty of rest. Being too tired makes people cranky.
- Volunteer. There are people out there worse off than we are. Also, it's a good way to meet people.
- Join a club--and no I don't mean a night club.
- Take courses, either in person or online. Some of the online ones are free.
- Take up a hobby. This can be a good way to meet people.
- Get involved in community events. Go to town meetings, go to events held at your local library, join a local theater group, go to fairs, get involved with local sports groups, join church groups, etc.

People are out there, but they won't just come up to your door and invite themselves into your life. You have to go part way. You have to go out where they are. And stay away from bars and night clubs. You won't meet a nice class of people there, and certainly not anyone who is looking for a serious relationship or even marriage.

But remember this, it will take time to find and develop friendships, and even more time to develop a serious relationship. This can't really be rushed, but you have plenty of time ahead of you. You are only 21, not 101! :lol:


Lot of people say this same thing over again and again. Why be patient? I am into 20s now and its time for this support. I'm not asexual kind of person. I'm straight.

I have been everywhere mate. I'm at uni, it has been for 4 years, has been participated in sporting and local events, is part of sustainability group. I love sustainability stuff and always been involve with it. Done travelling to plenty places and that. So, now this is my final year of uni and I want to get out of here because there is so many picky girls here. Alcohol and college culture is one of the problems here.

I'm planning to do 12month US visa program with the tour of working holiday meeting international people starting this December. I should work at Aspen for ski job and travel around the US and Hawaii rest of next year. Am I doing the right way? Helping chances of getting someone? I don't want to feel guilty about this. After this working holiday I should be back in Australia hopefully somewhere find a job in Brisbane or closer to home etc. Not sure this going to continue my chances?