I don't know how to handle this feeling

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So, to sum up my situation briefly: I am in a long-distance long-term relationship, I just got accepted into a 5 year PhD program, I will be moving across the country to a place where I don't know anyone yet, I will be teaching college courses, and I have the next three and a half months to just mill around at my old job, live with my parents and get nervous about it all.

I am normally a very content person, but I find myself feeling more and more anxious lately. I don't know if I am just nervous about all of the changes that will be happening, or if I am giving in to all the people who have told me that I am not capable of doing something like this. I don't know anyone who is really, well, different like I am. How can I cope for the next months? I don't want to begin school as a nervous wreck.

Any advise?

I think for most of us that would be a recipe for anxiety just because you're going from a familiar environment to an unfamiliar one.
I'd start preparing myself for that change so I could relax a bit. Get to know as much as you can about where you're going so that it doesn't feel so foreign when you get there. You may be able to make facebook friends with people already there or find people in common with people you already know.
Congrats on your PhD program!

Just keep going and be The Little Engine That Could.

Thank you both for the confidence boost!

That's a great idea! I actually met some really nice grad students when I was interviewing. We nerded out together about our fields of study over lunch. I should look and see if I can find them on facebook! It would be nice to have someone to ask questions. Maybe they might even be able to help me find a roommate (you know, besides my cat).

hmm... housing, that's another interesting point. I think I annoy a lot of roommates. They don't particularly bother me, but I really don't know when I step on peoples toes sometimes. I feel bad for making someone put up with that during their off-hours. At the same time, I feel like I get a lot out of living with someone else. Even though I enjoy a certain amount of alone time, I'm bad at arranging hang-outs with others on a regular basis and, well, stopping to realize that I haven't had cause to speak in eight days is pretty pathetic. Having a friend that lives with me gives me a chance to chat and have mini hang-outs all the time.

Either way I am feeling much less nervous about it today. Thank you again.