Aspie looking at grey skies

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Is it normal for an aspie to have a pessimistic outlook on life?

There are days when i feel like all i see are nothing but grey clouds above my head and that i live a futile existence, despite everything going for me in the right direction. I would not call it any sort of depression i have but i get the felling that i am lacking some passion in my life and i need to find it soon.

I think it is my condition that is making me feeling like this and i wanna change it. I can't go on like this forever and it is hurting me.

Anyone else feel this way?

Yeah, but I just mask it. I rarely let my true feelings show. To be honest, I'm quite depressive.

Yes, it does appear to be common, from what I have read here and elsewhere, as well as from my own experience. I have coping methods to deal with it, but don't ever expect to live totally free of at least low level depression. I am in my 50s and have never been free of it. Trying to deal with another culture (NTs) on a lifelong basis, that you have difficulty communicating with and relating to is very stressful. Especially since they don't approve of people who don't conform to herd behavior.

There is no purpose to life, at least no objective purpose. Only tools are created with a purpose, and people aren't tools; or if we are, we're terrible ones what with free will and all. Personally I find this lack of purpose liberating, as it means there are no expectations i have to live up to other than my own (and even if something does have a purpose for me, then they can suck it). My advice, focus on enjoying life, and you'll come up with your own purpose eventually.

That is probably more common with depression, and many people with aspergers do suffer from depression. But yeah I feel simular except I don't have everything going in the right direction. I'm convinced everything is going to hell..but whatever it doesn't really matter to me anymore or at least I don't think it should. But anyways if you really want to feel differently you could try getting professional help for it in which case sooner is better than later. I've tried therapy and it's never seemed to help but I've been depressed ever since I can remember and the longer it goes untreated the harder it is to recover..

Oh, yeah... grey skies are all to common in my life. I am cynical and jaded; and I have very good reason to be.
This seems to be uncommon for aspies that I know in person. I'm the only one with this outlook, it seems.

Not me, I have a girl friend, I'm physically fit, going good in school, some what odd (But in a good way) and I'm pretty happy.

What usually happens is my depressed friends come to me and I help them feel better however I can.

No, I don't think this is a fair generalization to make. It's one of society's ways of scapegoating us, saying that we're pesimistic. There are no pesimists in this world. There are optimists and there are realists. There's probably something amiss if you feel negative all the time...

Or maybe it's your way of preparing in case something DOES go wrong. I have a saying that if you worry about something, it won't happen and visa versa. And if there really is nothing wrong right now it's going to be a shock to the system if and when (knock wood) something goes wrong.

I would say this is the only thing I don't like about asperger syndrome that we are so consumed by axiety I wish it wasn't part of having AS the reason we have so much anxiety in my opinon is because we see the world diffrently then those around us do which creates masses amount of anxiety it sucks but something you just got to learn to cope with.

Have you tried meditation? It has been most helpful to me. It has been my best and most reliable refuge and I find it very liberating. Besides meditation, when I am feeling depressed, I find that exercise and music help to perk me up. Also, the energy of other people affects me too. Cheerful, lighthearted, confident people make me feel happy, and negative, sullen people make me feel sad.

I have worked to be more realistic but I tend to be somewhat pessimistic..it isn't that big of a deal really, it has allowed me to know what I enjoy.

We could be like those "looking on the bright side of things" all the time, also known as the loonies.