Still being harrasssed, can't take anymore of it.

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Ok, well I'm sick of people harrassing me. and it's even worst that they try to make themselves look like the good guys when they all just gang up on me to make me miserable.
I try to be nice to everyone, then they betray me and take advantage of my kindness. I swear there are too many bad people in the world. to make matters worse some of them are in my family.
when will it stop? as far as I'm concerned it's the so called "normal" people who are "wrong". Why can't we all just be friends? or at least get along? why does everyone have to be so cruel and evil?
I'm just so sick of all the cruelity in the world. I just want one good friend. someone who will be kind, someone who won't abandon me. But all those people won't stop harrassing me. I never did anything to deverve this, I swear they just chose me as a target to victimize. Why can't people be kind? friendly? compassionate? careing? Why are people so cruel?

I guess I'm doomed to live a life of pain and lonelyness. what can I do to make things better? I tried all the things I can think of...

Quick answer: Stop caring.
Long answer: Stop determining your self-worth based on other people.

That is literally the only thing we can do to improve our situation. For me, it took a suicide to figure that out. When you try to take your own life, it doesn't matter so much what the guy at the gas station, or some woman five or six years ago thinks about you. Not that I'm advocating suicide. I would suggest to take the advice of those who've been down that road and take a detour.

People are always gonna be cruel. It's our nature. We're big, smart, hairless chimps. Ever seen chimps interact? Not a pretty sight, let me tell you. You can either accept that and do your own thing, or you can try to resist and ask "why can't we all be friends". I hate to say it, but the latter is going to keep you a perpetual punching bag. People take any sign of weakness as a cue to strike, and that attitude is a big, glowing red neon sign saying "easy target". All there is to it.

We are all chimps. Our brains evolved from them, we share somewhere between 95% and 98.5% of our genetic material, our entire social structure is identical to the chimpanzee family group on a massive scale. You're a primate. Accept it. Doesn't mean you can't be a civilized decent human being.

Two, yes, you can be apathetic and be good. I'm not going about killing people. I'll happily hand over a fiver to a homeless person. I'll happily patch up an injured animal. I can also be cruel. I just don't care what people think. The world isn't black and white, mate. You aren't perfect. Your weakness isn't kindness, it's caring too much what other people think and do. Words hurt when they're coming from someone you respect, that you think is better than you. Put yourself on their level. No matter how cruel they are, that makes them lower. Which makes you better for not being as cruel as them. See the logic? Think about it this way. You reject the idea of being a chimp. Think of them as the chimps, think of yourself as the decent, kind, highly evolved human being. Just understand that it's socialization that makes you better. Their cruelty lessens them, your kindness and levelheadedness raises you up. Perceive yourself in that light.

You ask how can you make things better. That's how. The martyr act, crying "my god, my god, why have you forsaken me" will not do the trick. You have to realize that you are worth a damn for things to get better and stop defining yourself based on what other people think.

Yes, it's probably not the solution you wanted, but learning to "harden up" and stop caring or even thinking about those who harass you is the only thing you can do, because the world is full of stupid people doing stupid things, and that isn't going to change. You should be proud that you're better than them.

As for feeling lonely, many Autistic people's friendship needs can be more sufficiently met online, and if you meet someone here who you get on well with, send them a PM, and see how it goes. They aren't really my main special interests at the moment, but I am also interested in video games and art, so feel free to send me a PM if you like.