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Vashna
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25 Apr 2012, 3:55 am

I would like to keep this rather generic because I don't want to say anything bad about anyone in case they happen to use the same website that I do. However, I play board games at this one website and I casually mentioned how I used to be a much stronger player. Naturally, a few of the players there know that I have certain conditions that would, after all, get me to a place like this forum.

That being said, they were goading me about my comments, which were intended to be a joke in reference to humility. I was saying that while I was once a stronger player, I've been through a lot and I'm basically a rank beginner again. I then asked for advice, as though I were starting from the level of someone that never played. Instead, people continued to goad me about it suggesting that it is something like a riding a bicycle. One is apparently never supposed to forget the rules of the game, per se.

I'm very hard on myself, so I never know when to let myself off the hook about these things. How does one judge when they just need to stick things out and get a thicker skin and when to move on to preserve one's sanity? I've always had a tough time with this, since I never want to look weak. Sometimes I feel I need to grow a thicker skin or avoid bucking the system, but this kind of thinking has gotten me 'trapped' at some otherwise pretty rude forums for a long period of time.

Thank you for your thoughts!



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25 Apr 2012, 6:04 am

Stop beating yourself up over what is essentially trivia. Get on with your life. When there is something wrong that you can fix--fix it. If you can't fix it, and it is something that matters, get help to fix it. Other wise, just let it go.


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Vashna
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25 Apr 2012, 12:43 pm

While I theoretically know that, I'm trying to say that I find it extremely difficult to make decisions based around that idea. I can't tell when to leave things, when to just let things slide and when to seriously try to repair things. It's a skill that I'm almost completely lacking. Right now, I have a bad tendency to treat everything extremely seriously.