How do you not care what people say to you?

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A lot of you have a harsh life and rude family who tell you to grow up or are always on your case etc. Yet you perceive r. I don't see how! I want to crawl into a shell and cry and wither and die! SHEESH! Some of you sound like you've dealt with the negativeness for so long you've developed a f**k the world/them/family attitude and I question is that the type of attitude you have to develop to function in life and society with all the negativeness?

Outside of finding loving nice friends or a boyfriend I mainly have my family whom are mostly negative. Creating this "fake" I HATE YOU attitude is just that FAKE. Do you carry it so long it becomes real? Do you turn it ON/OFF? How do you cope? I don't want to create the view of f**k YOU to my family. They aren't without there faults but your family IS your family. (Despite mines negative comments etc.) Thanks! WP!

sign,Brandy

It's not an attitude of "Eff you," it's remembering the fact that the things negative people say and do have nothing to do with you. Their bad behavior is all them. Also, that people can be a mixed bag. You can not like the things they do and still love them.

It was for me. 39 years with no help from anyone when I've clearly needed it all this time ... you have to cope somehow. Sometimes it's the only way to escape crippling self-blame to which I am prone.

Not my family or my friends though, not everyone else either, probably not a majority even. Close, I'd say, but not quite. I love my family, and they love me. There were times when it wasn't that way, though.



Well that's something else, I don't hate anybody. I'm just really freaking angry with some people, and they disgust and disappoint me, but I don't hate them.



Since I have to repress it, I'd say so.



It goes on by itself, but I can turn it off.

I get used to it I suppose. As I lived in another person's house for almost a year and a half, you come to realise that everyone gets angry now and again, sometimes its not about you but something else entirely. I stopped giving a damn when I got older too....