It's not fair

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My parents can be nice. They can also be mean. For example my dad will say I have no appreciation for anything and other mean things whenever he can if the situation is appropriate. My mom sometimes threatens me saying she will chop off my hand if I don't do the dishes. Also she will say mean things too. For example, this morning she called me an infant. I'm a 15 year old teenager btw. Has anyone else had these kind of experiences? If so please share.

I've never had parents threaten to chop off a body part but my brother and brother will occasionally gang up on me and tell me I need to live in a facility. I find it strange how NTs are quick to blame 'us' for the slightest of damages yet can steamroller over our emotions. Can you differentiate whether your mother is making a literal threat or just speaking NT for "If you wouldn't mind to do the dishes that would be a great help"? Taking things literal is a huge Aspie trait and I've walked into that myself. My family look to me when they need to spell or find a word or have a music question, then in the next breath can slam me for some kind of ingratitude. You might try asking your mom if she would seriously cut off your hand, and if so, ask how you would be able to wash dishes with a missing hand. (If you don't eat your meat, you can't have any pudding, how can you have any pudding if you don't eat your meat?) or something like that

If you have a psychologist you might want to mention that to him/her and see if that psychologist can have a chat with your parents about that.

Most people do not realize consciously how words can affect others..they just say it. It is only when a third person comes in and tells them 'hey you realize what you just said?' that it dawns on them. Especially when its a repeated behavior.

If you dont have a psychologist then do it yourself. Sit with them and tell them how much it hurts you to hear those things. Keeping that pain inside is not healthy and you do have to live with them so why not make things clear?

I've heard the "work or I'll chop off your hands" one before, in a variety of contexts. The only time I've been alarmed by it is when I thought that the mother or father meant it.

Not sure what's up with your dad.