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I'm confused. Three times you admit you have a boyfriend, but in your treatise you also state: "I've got a crush on someone...I'm alone...There's no one around to listen to you...? Does your boyfriend actually exist? Please clarify.

If you want friends don't dump your depression and complaints on them. Save it for a therapist or psych doc. Having family or friends dump down moods and complaints on one is a real turn off. Instead find ways to keep yourself occupied and distracted.

- Exercise. It generates mood boosting endorphins.

- Read funny stories and watch funny shows. That also generates endorphins.

- Eat healthy and enough of it. A healthy body and mind go together. And don't skimp on meals. People who try to starve themselves thin end up tired, cranky, and more likely to get sick. Also, the skeleton look is hideous.

- Get enough sleep. Tired people tend to be cranky and depressed, and are more prone to illness, too.

- Volunteer. There are people worse off than we are who would appreciate the help. Helping them will boost your mood, and it's also a good way to meet people. It's also good on a resume.

- Take courses, either in person or online. Some of the online ones are free, and the in person ones are a good way to meet people, and will boost your resume.

- Take up a hobby. It will keep you occupied, and is a good way to meet people who share your interest. Also, hobbies can sometimes be turned into a way to make money.

- Join a club. It's a good way to meet people and to keep occupied.

- Get involved in community activities. Attend town meetings, attend events at local libraries and other venues, go to local fairs, art shows, and sporting events, attend and/or participate in local theater groups. These are all good ways to meet people.

- Consider self employment. There are many self employment opportunities out there. There are books at the local library listing and describing many of them.

Now, stop with the downer mood, and do something!

First of all, if you love your boyfriend, then you need to let go of this crush. Don't let your unhappiness with other aspects of your life damage one of the positive things you have going.

Second, I think you should discuss this with your boyfriend (not the crush part, but the rest of it.) Maybe he can suggest a way for you to meet some new people. Or something else you can do that might help you feel better.

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Lets get this straight - I'm not depressed, I'm lonely and restless, and there is no crush to worry about - I thought my post clearly stated this, but apparently not. I was posting this to find some help or someone who can relate, not to be criticised.

Well, I think I sympathise. You obviously have quite a strong desire there to turn things around for yourself. I don't know what to advise, though. I think advice is often redundant for me because we are all on a different trajectory. For me, I would try and get to the bottom of what was going on with myself. Hopefuly come to see that certain beliefs I have about myself are not good for me and are also untrue and in so doing start to get free of those beliefs and enjoy the positivity that is just there in their absence.