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usually after school, my parents ask me 2 questions before any conversation is started... the first question i get is usually
[1] how was your day?
this is relatively easy to answer, but my parents want a rating.... and i SUCK at rating things, unless i feel strongly about it, and there are few subjects under this category. AS is probably the top one. the second question is usually asked by my dad, since he works full time, it is pretty much just small talk between my mom and i, the second question is always
[2] tell me one good thing that happened at school today.
this one is extremely hard to answer, i don't look back at things until the next day. and at school, all the good things either don't happen, or they are before before an extremely upsetting moment. so when my parents ask me this question, my brain wants me to say
[a] i can tell you a bad thing that happened today...
i never say that, but all i can think of is the bad thing.... today, it is leaning in both good and bad, i'm not asking for something to say, i am looking for relief. i am also (for lack of a better word) bragging about the good thing. this *is* the HAVEN, isn't it? anywhoo, TODAY:

i come to school. my first class is math, nothing interesting there... for second hour, i have P.E. unlike most kids, at P.E. i sort of sulk, instead of rejoice. today in physical... whatever the E is for... we were playing dodge ball, my least favorite activity. usually, during dodgeball, i just stand in one spot until i get hit, the i just stand in the sidelines. but today, i noticed something, one of the more athletic kids (one of the few that are actually nice to me) was having good aim, but they kept getting knocked out in each round before they could make any impact. so i began running to the line of fire yelling "aim for me, i am tired of not doing anything, i am tired of not scoring, aim for me now!" I usually don't freak out like this, and i did this in order to distract our (me and the athletic kid, since we were the only ones on our team not out, this was probably a record for me, i have never ever lasted this long in a game) apponents in order for him to shoot his ball into the basket, which brings everyone on the team back, my/our plan worked, but my screaming fake fit got me out, and since i was out barely after the basket, i was not called back in. this was a big thing for me, not only am i the geeky kid who never makes a difference in the game, but up until then, i now realize all of the things i have done were to help me, i wasn't ignoring everyone, or being rude to them, but i never contributed to advice, or helped them. this was the first time that i ever effected the outcome of a propaganda in a positive way, ever. then, as always, something bad happened, skipping ahead to 4th hour, this is lit. class, usually, though i like reading, i don't like the class. today was going to be different because the teacher was handing out progress reports, usually, i look forward to these, i like seeing A's and B+'s, but this was different:
----------------------------------------------------!F!----------------------------------------------------

if i don't raise it by the end of the quarter, that is my first F, 2 of them and i get held back, and that would be a LIVING HECK!! !!

Your parents seem to be systematic, as if they're asking those questions because a psychologist told them so. It's sort of unrealistic to have to put a rating on a subject that can get highly emotional, such as school.

If you can tell your parents a bad thing, then why not do so? I've complained to my parents many a time about school-related issues.

I completely agree with you about PE, for 90 per-cent of the time. Just like you, though, today was different in that I was (rather predictably) into an interesting social situation. Besides that, I think PE's just like a glorified recess period for guys to flaunt their masculinity and act like pack wolves. I am one to sit on the sideline, as well.

sorry double post

Last edited by hale_bopp on 17 Nov 2006, 9:24 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I have the same problem.. I always hated talking about school, I wouldn't tell them anything. Question two is a bit idiotic in my opinion, what a dumb thing to ask.

Also, I love your avatar

Failing high school because of P.E. Sad. Do you have an AS diagnosis? If so, can't you use that to get into a different class?

Sad, as in, what kind of school flunks a kid over P.E.? Few people in sports are actually good enough to go pro and making a living out of it.

thanks for the compliment on the avatar hale_bopp!

and xon, just a simple mis-understanding. but i am in only 7th grade, no high school yet. i have been diagnosed with aspeger's, but i am failing in reading class, again simple misunderstanding, since i am in middle school, i can't really switch classes, though, but thanks for the advice!