Gossip

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I'm putting this post in The Haven because it's really getting me down. I don't understand why people have to talk about other people, especially in a negative way or why some people don't seem to find anything else interesting. I don't understand why they interpret your desperate attempt to change the subject from gossip as being commentary, usually negative, about the people you're talking to. The truth is, I don't like gossip. I don't like hearing people trash other people who aren't there to defend themselves; it doesn't make me turn against the person in question so much as to feel sorry for them for having such gossipy acquaintances. Then I wonder if they talk about me just as negatively when I'm not there and the answer is usually yes.

It's fun being around other people in a social setting until the gossip sets in. Then I just want to quit.

I agree with you about gossip. Trouble is, it is insidious, and hard to avoid. Not only hearing it, but doing it one's self.

It's hard to find people you can trust you can talk to about things. The Aspergers makes it hard to manage what I talk about and it keeps me from judging accurately the person to whom I'm talking. I used to try to stay away from everyone just to keep from telling stuff other people didn't need to know, and people took that as cold and snotty. Then when I did confide in someone it was the wrong person and they stabbed me in the back. Now I just make it a point not to talk about people at all if it isn't something good, and I'm learning to avoid even that, though it's difficult. I still have people misinterpret me.

I generally put an effort behind not gossiping,.