Money Issues, Boiling Points, etc.

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First some background. I made some extra money doing odd jobs and it was to be used for fixing the computer and buying whatever extra luxuries I saw fit. We went shopping and I picked out a bottle of rum to share with some co-workers later but she made me use my bonus cash for groceries, which wasn't the intended use for my money. I didn't want to break a hundred so I removed some items, and told her we would discuss this later. She got pissed off, made a scene, said she would never shop at the store again, and I had to apologize to everyone around us. When we got to the car she refused to speak, and turned up the radio really loud, which I couldn't handle.

I got sick of it all and bailed out of the car as it was moving in the parking lot. It wasn't going very fast, I rolled away, picked myself up and walked off. She sped away, and I don't know where she went. I had to use the safety strip and walked along the highway, jumped fences and scaled hills to get back home. She left her cell phone at home, there's no way to contact her. What do I do now?

Last edited by Decorequiem on 20 Jun 2012, 9:25 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Not enough information. Who is "she"? And are you injured? If not, what is the emergency exactly?

Who is ''she'', is she girlfriend, fiance, or wife? Do you guys live together? Are you expected to be at HER house at a certain time in the evening or do you have the place of your own? How is your relationship otherwise? You really should provide more background for us to help.

Did you at least get your rum when you jumped out of the car?

She's back, only half an hour after I came back. She has the GALL to be mad at ME. I don't have any control over my life. She's completely unapproachable. I feel overwhelmed right now.

Anyway, the relationship with my girlfriend is horrid. I'm too codependent to strike it out on my own. No, I didn't get the rum, but she brought it back. Yes, we live together. No, I don't need emergency services. I have a sore ass and lots of cuts and scratches from scaling fences but other than that I'm fine. I dunno what to do anymore. I'm going to try and get some rest now. If anyone has advice or direction for me, please share it with me. I don't think I can talk about this to anyone I know personally.

I'll check back on this thread later.

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she sounds very controlling. keep up what you started today and take good care of yourself regardless of how she reacts.

If you are living together you are supposed to be sharing expenses. If you don't want to share expenses, then you shouldn't be bumming off of her--buy all of your own food and pay all your own bills. Better still move out. Then you can do whatever you want with your money. And lay off the booze. When money is tight, wasting it on booze is very uncool.

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I went out of my way to make that extra money and the alcohol is to share with co-workers who have done me the same gratitude before. I don't want to seem ungrateful and I had the opportunity. I'm not bumming off of her at all. She's spending my extra money in a manner that makes me leery.

The thing that I found the most striking about your post, is that she really does not seem to care about you at all. Assuming you have sensory issues that she knows about, blaring the radio was cruel on her part. Jumping out of a moving car was an absolutely ridiculous thing to do on your part( why didn't you just turn the radio down?), but she didn't even stop to see if you were OK!! And then to leave you there to walk home?!?!-I can't imagine-you are in one messed up relationship.

I actually think the alcohol thing is ok. Sometimes this is what gets us in trouble with NT's, is that we don't always think to do those reciprocation things. It's not that we don't want to-we just don't think of it-when it comes naturally to a lot of people. So I think that it is kind of cool that you thought to do it-as long as that $ didn't take away from other needed items. Maybe it should have been discussed a little more in depth with your girlfriend before you went to the store, so everybody understands what's going to happen once your at the store.

Was just going to ask this!

After that ordeal, I'm sure he could use it!

I did. She screamed "No!" and turned it back up to maximum again. She was extremely pissed, the radio was loud, and as I said before she had made a scene in the store prior, so all this just snowballed together into a situation where I just HAD to leave. It was a split second decision and all of a sudden I was on my stomach dusting myself off. I've never done something like this before, I think I'm just getting fed up with arguing all the time.

That's no way to live.

There's seems to be a lot of people on WP stuck in similar situation. Don't want to stay-scared to leave.

I wonder if it would be at all helpful to do some kind of roommate wanted sticky-you put it in the member-only section. Just a thought-don't know if it's worth anything.