I need to rant about my evil ex!

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If I don't do it here I might put it on Facebook or someplace where it may haunt me later...

I'm just revolted to the extreme... I found out recently that my ex-wife had been cheating on me even before she just left one day (1st separation) or when she kicked me out for a flimsy reason (2nd and final separation.) Each time and ever since, she's prevented me from seeing my boys as much as possible - it would be zero if it weren't for a temporary court order giving me a couple lousy hours a week at a friggin' Burger King while she watches and smiles with satisfaction.

Because the court systems are feminist-run, she gets a free lawyer and they laugh at my futile efforts to get the court system to award time with my kids. It doesn't matter if she's a cheating whore shacking up with a new man and making out in front of my kids, that she's gone so far out of her way to destroy my family, that child services has been called 5-6 times for my children acting out extremely inappropriately due to her terrible parenting, or even that her mother is a psycho abusing everyone in the family... she still gets everything without question. Heck, my ex-wife, her female lawyer and the female Dispute Resolution Officer all laughed and made man jokes at my expense!

While we were a couple, we were poor because my full-time job didn't earn money faster than she could spend it and she refused to get a job. Instead, the solution was to make me go out and get a second job. So now I'm away from home even more and she can f%^# more strange men. Funny how she didn't end up with a single one of them...

I know I'm better off without her and her horrible, evil, selfish ways but part of me still misses her and her sexy curves... the idea of another man (or several) sleeping with her just puts me into a rage. The idea that such a horrible woman is allowed to have my kids and RUIN them too just galls me.

I've had chances to sleep with others but it still feels like betraying the wedding vows I took very seriously - even though she used those vows like toilet paper long, long ago.


[sigh] Some day this will all pass, but it's been 2.5 years since she kicked me out (day after Christmas!) and it just hurts.... and lingers... it'll be hard to offer my all to a new, wonderful woman until I can fully overcome this. Not sure what the missing element is, but finally knowing the full extent of her evil doings is certainly helping me get over the past... or at least not wanting her any more.


whew..... thanks for letting me share, gang... better here than on Facebook.

... I have nothing to say other than I am sorry that she's such a horrible person.

i, too, have an evil ex. that haunted me for years. i co-parented his daughter from his first marriage for three summers. after i broke up with him (because he hit me), he never let me see her again.

now i am married to a wonderful man.

i wish you the best with your kids.

What did you do to get kicked out on Boxing Day?

That's one evil ex...not sure what else to say other than I hope you get the legal help needed to fight back! Good luck!!

I don't know where you are but there is a guy here in Alabama who has started a parents rights group and he has a lot of focus on the rights of divorced or seperated dads. I don't know if he's got contacts all over the country yet, but he may be a start to finding a resource to help you.

PM me and I'll give you his name and contact information, if you want it.

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BlueMax, That's just awful. I'm so sorry. I never stop being shocked at how vicious and horrible people can be.

The love of my life is in a very similar situation. His evil alcoholic, spendaholic ex-wife threw him out a bit more than 3 years ago. The divorce was finalized about 6 months ago. He's on the hook for alimony and child support, but (a) he doesn't care about the money, and (b) she has been surprisingly cooperative about visitation (11-year-old boy and 9-year-old girl). So far, that is. I've no doubt she is plotting and scheming, to cut him off from the kids while forcing him to fund her lifestyle. It's true - anti-man courts will probably see her as the victim and take her side.

He and I fell in love 15+ years ago (before our respective whopping-mistake marriages), and recently, I've been the best friend to him I know how. We should have wound up together to begin with, and he agrees. But he remains resistant and wary of entering into a relationship again. If you had such a woman around, what would be the best thing she could do for you? Other than the passage of time, how do you think you will move forward from here?

That sounds like a horrible situation. I don't really understand the reasoning behind the rules regarding child support and visitation rights. There's hardly anything fair about them. In many cases I've heard about, the vindictive women were able to cancel visitation rights, receive money from men making less money than they did, and subsequently admit to spending that money on massages, expensive liquor and clothes shopping for themselves and their new boyfriends.

Don't beat yourself up over breaking wedding vows. They were, above all, part of a contract. In this instance, she was clearly the aggressive party. Clearly, you're a very moral person, and she's at fault for cheating on you, then leaving you, then having the guts to try humiliating you.

Thanks for the pressure release... I was seriously about to blow my top!

I'm slowly cooling down and trying to return to an even-keel so I can get through the day and my job. I have hope - there are some women who find me attractive and even a few who enjoy my company!

Finally seeing her for who and what she truly is really helps me finally let her go. It still makes me ill thinking of someone pumping away on the woman I loved, but I suppose I can take some pleasure in the fact it's only a matter of time before she starts denying him everything as well. "Not this month, dear - I have a headache."

Then again - maybe not, since she finally got herself the big, strong, chest-thumping alpha male she wanted me to be (despite emasculating me at every opportunity.)

Oh well. Surely there are still some good women out there that believe in love, commitment and honoring their wedding vows instead of immediately running to the first "upgrade" they come across. After experiencing love and lovemaking, I refuse to go back to meaningless and tawdry sex that leaves you feeling guilty and empty afterward.

And, bucephalus, I'm ranting... I'm not this frank when speaking to anyone in my "real world". This certainly wasn't something she left me over... she just apparently wanted some sweaty, hairy testosterone factory and/or lots of free money for her to spend and/or unlimited freedom to sit on her duff while other people raise the kids and do the chores. It's also not name-calling; a whore trades sex for money.


Sorry about being overly negative... this rant was a much-needed release of YEARS of frustration. Out of it, some actual nuggets of info can be gleaned and some great folks have already picked up on those and offered appropriate response. Thank you to those!

And having vented all that crap, I feel GREAT today! This could also explain why someone who's been smiling at me for a while approached for a little conversation today. She may be a bit younger than I originally sought, but I invited her for a coffee & conversation date which she happily accepted.

So life is looking up.

YAY for you BlueMax! enjoy