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whos brilliant idea was it to sign up an austic person with major sensory issues for a three month long parenting class with an baby think it over!? for those who are fortunate enough not to know what this is, it is a doll that is automated to simulate a real infant. it cries, and you have to preform on of four actions with it feed, burp, change or rock it. usually the doll is used for a couple of days in middle or high school courses to teach teanagers the resposibility of being a parent. but no this is the main portion of this course, which as i mentioned (probably too many times) is three months long. what were my parents thinking? "oooh my daughter has a full time job at a place that is already exreamly stressful for her and already has trouble with sleeping. lets add something that screams at the top of its lungs every couple of hours just to make sure she never gets to sleep again! Oh and did i mention unexpected pregnancy is not only illogical but also imposible.

If you are incapable of reproducing at all, It seems illogical, even mean, to force you to endure that. If, however, your reproductive organs are functional and you're merely using some kind of birth control, that would make it more understandable to me. I can still sympathize with you regarding the inconvenience and stress this has on you with your already heavy workload. All I can say is even the most well meaning parents are still just flawed people wading through life. Good luck!

Yes i am incapable of reproducing and thank you for sypathising with me. you are right they are also just people

Have you shared your view on this with them? It's quite possible a fresh perspective might cause a change in their decision. After all, what are you doing this for? An unexpected adoption? "Mom. Dad. I need to tell you something. I woke up this morning and realized I'd adopted a baby..."

Btw, I can't reproduce either. I know some people who find that depressing, but it doesnt bother me. My only concern is who is going to wheel me into the nursing home when I'm old?

thank you for that at least you made me smile and i am not upset about it i figured if and when i am ready i can look into adoption. as far as talking to them is concerned i tried that they said that they forgot i couldnt have kids but it is non refundable and you can learn to be resposible from it anyway....i thought that a full time job would show resposibility.

I must ask.

When you say "Can't reproduce" does that mean you have a medical problem that you are incapable of producing eggs that could be fertilized, or you "Won't reproduce" because you don't want kids?

I had surgury that caused permanent damage to my reproductive organs so i physically cannot have kids

Your parents sound well meaning, but they do not own your life. From your profile I see that you are 20 years old, past the age of legal adulthood in the US. Thus, you do not have to go if you don't want to, and they can't force you to go either.

1+ Tell your parents that you are learning to be responsible in other ways like having a job & that going to the classes & dealing with the doll interfere with the downtime you need to function well at your job & that you think it would be more responsible for you to drop the class than it would be for you to lose your job due to the stress of trying to manage the class & doll along with having a job. If they don't listen; bring the doll back & drop the class & tell your parents that you will give them some of your next few paychecks to cover what they spent on you to take the class & that you will start managing you own commitments; they may go in shock that your taking responsibility

Sweet Pea hugs

I just want to say that I commend you for even attempting to handle it. You seem quite responsible, I'd recommend nick007's advice, it's a way to get out of that mess and prove your responsibility to your parents at the same time.

If I were you I would have killed the doll already (Die, doll, die!! !), yelled at my parents... no... sweared at my parents, and gone back to my own life.

Am I the only one thinking it's not only foolish but also totally insensitive to forcibly sign up someone to a pretend-baby parenting course when they're STERILE!?

If you wanted a child, this would be emotional torture!

unfortunatly since they are still paying for a chunk of my education, unless i want that money to go away (and then have to drop out of school) i have to do what they want. and yes i agree that this is a bit tourturous for me concidering for the next three months i have a constant reminder of what wont ever happen.

I think there's good advice here. Your parents sound well meaning, but I think it's wrong to have you care for a child which you can never have. I could see this more approperiate for a girl who could. (I asked because some people who say 'can't' meally mean 'don't want to')

Nick07's advice is good.

Glad you guys liked my advice. Ask your parents to explain the point in you taking that coarse. You posted that your parents claimed it was to learn responsibility but there is no practical use for you to learn how to take care of a kid since you cant have them. I could understand if you were wanting to have a kid without having a clue what taking care of a kid is like; like if you were one of those b!tchy teenagee girls on the talk shows who wants a kid because she thinks it's cool because some of her peers have them; taking that class would be really good but it's completely assinine to make someone take it when she cant have a kid, isn't ready to adopt a kid & isn't trying to get a job working with kids. Tell your parents it would be better if you learned responsibility in more practical ways like taking a cooking class if you don't know how to cook or coarse on finance/budget planning if you have problems managing money

I guarantee you this (bolded) is straightup bulls**t. It sounds like they're custodial of you, and if so, I wonder why they feel they need to use childish arguments to persuade you to do things they think are useful. It sounds like a bad dynamic for you, but as you said, you're indebted to them for a little while longer. I'd just be furious about being lied to.

No parent "forgets" something significant and medical, like that, about their child.