I have no idea who I am.

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I just muddle through life,questioning and requestioning every decision I make and I want to write this before I change my mind.I don't know what I like,do I just pretend to have hobbies so that I appear normal or do I actually take pleasure in such frivolities.Do I say "yeah that's a good show" when asked about TV just so I have a point of common intrest.Is society influencing all my actions so that I appear to be happy and content with all my activities when I am really dying inside.My self confidence is so low that I can't trust myself to make decisions for myself.Alot of people would say "stop thinking so much and just do what feels right"...but nothing feels right.

Who am I?

What do I like?

please tell me because I have no clue

well, i certainly can't tell you who you are. you can only really tell yourself who you are.

try some hobbies or find a band you like.

you enjoy breathing air, so there's a start.

You are you and you like what you like. Nothing seems right if you are off. You might try different things to see what you like, or you might decide it is too much trouble and stick to your normal routine. I would imagine that many people have these feelings at some point, you just have to find your own way through them. Finding yourself is no easy task.

Yeah I went from being young and knowing it all to now I do not trust my own thoughts. I live 99% in a dream. I'm bored and don't know what I'm doing anymore.
I can see time from the beginning to the end and know everything about my life and
pretty much everyone elses combined will have close to zero impact on the end
of the universe. But I'm not worried about it either. Just survive day to day.

I was lost for nearly a year and a half. I was between obsessions, and I wasn't planing on having another obsession for the rest of my life. Just as I couldn't take it anymore, one of my old obsessions came back, to pay me a very long visit. Actually two of them came back, and they're related to each other.

I am currently discovering what I like. It's a slow search, but I'm finding things. My guiding light is the Too Loud book. Twice a day, I must do something pleasurable. To begin with, I've had to put that in my ToDo list, like it was a chore. I don't really understand anything else.

- I repaired the chair massage pad and I use it.
- Bought a bamboo plant, I like looking at it.
- Revamped the whole shower process.

Wow, taking a walk on the wild side, huh? Well, it's a start.

Thanks everybody,you've helped alot.

I'm like what Cockney said, I feel a terrible overwealming emptiness when I'm between obsesions.

Obsessions never got me nothing, but they're fun. They keep me going.

Also, I cleaned up my house a bit. I find the external environment affects what's going on inside my mind. When my eyes are constantly telling my brain, "dirt and chaos," it seems to steer my thinking in that direction.

Wow, I thought this was only me.

Between obsessions I feel totally worthless personally, as if without that key drive I don't have anything to offer.

Fortunately music is an ever-expanding interest, with no limit on where I can go..

However I've taken a new interest in nanotechnology which will give me 4 years of study to achieve, so as to prevent me falling into general disinterest and disarray again.

I think its very important to follow your desires, to find what you truly want to achieve, and find a path that can lead you to it or through it..

Most importantly, its the journey that must become enjoyable or functional, not the end result.

Perhaps you could keep a reflective journal and analyse and delve into aspects of your life and make decision on what you like/dislike and your reactions to things. Make your feelings concrete.

Interesting topic. I've never thought about who I am because I've always perceived myself as who I am. That probably doesn't make much sense. Sometimes I haven't been sure about what I like, but it hasn't been much of a problem. It is a bummer that few people find a practical value in who I am and what I like.

I guess I don't really understand first hand what you are saying. Something to think about I suppose.

I remember Arsenio Hall in an interview one time saying he didn't know who he was anymore because he was always performing for other people. Society does have a huge influence on many of us on what we believe and who we are.

Hopefully it is fun to write just about whatever you feel like in WP without worrying about other stuff. I like writing about things I wouldn't talk about outside of WP. My topics get little traffic, but no one has given me a hard time about it either. I do get scared at times when writing about sensitive topics. I'm thinking about staying away from those because they are quite scary.

I have struggled deeply with the question of who I really am. I actually made a topic about figuring it out a while ago:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/modules.php? ... c&p=333525

I also feel terribly empty emotionally and it seems to have gotten worse in the past couple of years. I think maybe it´s a sense of hopelessness that my life will ever get better. I find myself getting absorbed in my hobbies just to kill time.

I can't tell you who you are.
You have got to disconnect from every influence trying to tell you who you are and sell you an identity.
Then to get a good overview, you could take a role playing game character sheet and fill out your stuff there.
They are made to roughly define a person's characteristics, and, like a role playing game, you can keep it and use it as guide to "level up" on skills and abilities.
Check out this film for further instructions. (That's where I got the idea )
I also suggest you download and check out this episode, because it talks A LOT about your mind, your self, your identity, and all that without trying to sell anything.
Try some meditation.
Write down what YOU like.
Write down what YOU think.
Discard what everyone has told you is cool and fun.
Mimicking others personalities is for normals

But, again, you can't let others decide for you.
Not media, not your friends or families, not us, only you.

Such beautiful thinkers here.