Going back to school after 2 1/2 years! Pls reply ASAP

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Ok so I have been homebound for 2 1/2 years now and I finally got my iep about four months ago, so I was transferred to a new school where there was Exceptional Childrens classes and I was supposed to go to school there this semester; now my mom and I had been hope all summer that this would be the class for me, and the first day I went there it wasn't what I thought so I told my mom and she called and changed things around so I went the second day and it was ok, they even said they were going to lend me a laptop to work on at school, they were going to buy art supplies and other stuff for me, and the classes last for 2 hours which doesn't seem like much but after 2 years and some it really hard, so after two days there I'm telling my that it is to much I feel way to overwhelmed, and I can't do it, so today I told her I'm not going because of just what I said. Well my mom is pissed at me and she told me your going Monday whether you want to Or not, I feel very scared, nervous, and backed into a corner right now, I know this is what we setup and people are doing alot for me, but I thought that I would have an out from this if I didn't like it, my mom said I was only there for two days and I hadn't given it enough time, I have given plenty of thought and I'm just not going to be able to do it, but my parents are just determines to make me go but it's to much what do I say?

Sympathy. Reminds me of our son - put him in preschool -VERY hard on him and the others were not ready for him. Toomk him out, homeschooled a few years, put him back and it worked well, school closed we took over again. He's fine now.

Practically, you may not have much choice. A lot depends on how much your parents understand you. If in general they get you, I would say try to relax and hold on - sometimes things actually DO improve as you let go.

In any case - do whatever quiets you and so far as possible talk about it quietly and calmy [timeout can help]

You know, sometimes it's hard. Things are just hard. Situations are hard. But you have to learn to deal with them. The only way you can do that is by going and facing them. Even when it's uncomfortable, even when you think you can't do it. You can't stay home with Mom forever, so now is a good time to start "fighting the good fight" as they say. Take it one day at a time, don't worry about the next one excessively. If things don't go well one day, before the end of the day sit down and think about what went wrong and what you learned from that. Then use what you learned. Even a total disaster can be a positive thing, if you learn something from it.

Don't sell yourself short, I bet you can do a lot more than you think you can. I would start by thinking less that "I can't do it" and more like "How much of this can I do easily, and what can I learn from the things that are hard today?" before you walk out of the door in the morning. Good luck!