Am I the only one?

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Am I the only one that still sees the beauty in this world? Can it be that no else cares for true things? Everyone is so concerned with other's social status. I guess that I just haven't grown up quite yet, I just watched as everyone in my class drove around with their friends in their new cars.

Am I the only one that still believes in true love? It seems that most girls are after the same guy, as most males today dress and wear their hair the same.

Am I the only one that doesn't party/drink/smoke/use drugs? Everyone is after one of these 4 things, some do all. I have never been to a house party in my life and why should I? It seems sort of boring.

Am I the only one left? It often seems that I am all alone on this planet. Sometimes I think of going away, far away. Somewhere the people are decent and not all alike. Somewhere I don't feel constant anxiety. Somewhere I can live a peaceful life, and my mind isn't a black hole.

Does anyone else feel like this? One minute you have a hundred of things going through your head, and the other there is nothing, you feel nothing.

Cheers,

Cole.

Some of us are still true kids at heart and haven't lost that child like optimism!

I don't party, drink, smoke, do drugs either. And I know what you mean. Women mainly only want those things in men. They also want men to treat them bad and abuse them (not all women, but most). I will never understand that. But oh well, what can you do XD

You speak like there is only one way to enjoy life correctly.

Greetings from the opposite pole. Here, I view the world as a vile ball of mud, sludge and parasites. The people you look upon with confusion, I look upon with disdain. Your mind is a black hole, my mind is a maelstrom of anger, sadness, frustration and despair.

I used to be like you, when I was much younger. Just wondered why things couldn't be simpler and still thought love was an actual virtue and not bait for a trap to clean out a man's bank account. (Or a woman's, I'm sure it works both ways.)

Don't worry, when enough people have stepped on your face and kicked you in the gut. You'll view the world as s**t, too.

It's more a matter of feeling the beauty in the world imho.

Well, it seems like you are in high school? Yes? Or in your teenager-years? Ok. I think I can help with this....I...think.
The girls are mostly idiots. You want to date thr artists and theater students. They are weird, but they believe in true love. Well. Dont stalk any of them like me, but. I mean, dont stalk any of them, but. This usually is a good path for the most imminent path of sex for you. I mean, "Cole" I presume you're a guy that likes girls.

New cars are SHINY. Everybody enjoys new things. Why do you think people listen to...uhm..HMM..The Fray (uhh...) over the Beatles? Because well, The Fray is moping around as you are in 2010-2012, and the Beatles, they. are.....not. ....... I cant tell you for certain but I presume that they have all died. BUT the Beatles can out-do anything that The Fray does, post-dead. BUT that doesnt matter to people, because they arent there on the "Cool" New-Music Radio/Anything (that nobody who is cool actually listens to, but dont hang with them either, they are doing drugs-Stick with the weird nice-theater people)

You are in a Conventional Phase, where aspies do not thrive. Once you reach your twenties you will see you can find ways of insulting and distancing yourselves duly from these weird Abercrumbie and b***h persons you had to get along with. I won Most Popular; I Know This. If youd like, you can take advantage of this time by way of throwing things at them. Then, you will find you fit in this thing called Postconventional Thinking, and that there are other souls that do not party and mourn over the loss of idealism-In university. 

House Partys ARE boring. People who act like they do not care about any of these things and look hotter than everybody are the rare Coolest Souls in high school. Bc they dont give a flying f**k. Try to be the flying f**k. So. Try to trample your values as far as your appearance goes (the most trivial aspect to your values in that you can easily compromise unless you are Michael Kors) and go eat Muscle Milk shakes and whatever the football team is using, and work out by way of building muscle and wear clothes and assimilate with the enemy by way of your looks, and then all this other s**t? Smooth sailing. If you say "I dont like drinking and smoking" people will respect you because you are hot. This is how you do this. Create your own power. Or. Date a weird theater girl and have sex enough to forget about your troubles with the rest of the world.

Hope I helped. Sorry about the dilemma/dilemna. It doesnt get better, they all marry and s**t afterwards and respawn.
If you ever get to looking really hot, theyll want to be your friend, at that point; Dont be their friend nonchalantly. This makes you hold even more power. And thats what you want, am I right? That whole message you wrote was over who holds power and who doesnt. So. I gave you good advice. I do not smoke or drink either but was still invited to every party. Thankfully they are all marrying now so I dont have to be the "wild-crazy girl" of the group anymore and entertain everybody. Its really, kid...its not great, and is Boring. Unless YOU, as a postconventional, do something about it.

Also....if you dont want to tell anybody something when they ask, remember that you can just be vague and not answer. It adds a mystery, which is nonexistant in Conventionality.

Hope to have helped, Pm me if you need, j

I was like you somewhat, at least in the thoughts and feelings I had towards the beauty on the planet and imagining and hoping for a true and lasting love. I was attracted to and dated several girls over time, but the one I imagined in my head was kind of a mix of characters in a story I much loved. The story was The Lord of the Rings and the person that formed in my mind was a mix of Goldberry and Galadriel. A woman of nature and gentle, but with a deep vein of strength and strong will. Long I searched and long I waited, but then out of the blue she appeared.

This is just a vague outline of how I prepared...

See to your own improvement, physically, mentally and professionally/materially in the world.

Never abuse or use any woman.

When you think you see someone who is right for you, don't be bashful or hesititant

Thank you all for your replies, it really helps me a lot. I guess I really need to look past all of these people and focus on what I believe is important regardless of what the others think.

Again, thank you all for your replies, greatly appreciated. Looking at a lot of these replies shows me that there are some good people in this world.

Thank you all,

Cole.

I am 31 and never lost that view. Some people call it "innocence". I am just fundamentally that way.

The way I look at it is this: there are 7 BILLION people in the world. At least one other person has to have views similar to mine, and a lifestyle similar to mine as well!

You are definitely not the only one. The only one of those that I've even been interested in enough to try is drinking, and after a couple of times I got bored with it.

You should like what you like because you like it, not because somebody else is pretending to like it to be popular.

This reminds me of a Flight Engineer I met in the Air Force. He was a popular and outgoing guy and extremely intelligent but was getting older and one day told me he couldn't seem to find a lastly relationship.

I told him of my belief that there was a good match for him out there, someone who was like the lock that matched his key.

He said something like " Yeah! I believe that is true. But I'm afraid she lives in India somewhere and speaks only Hindi!"

I see myself as a guy outside of drinking, partying and all that. I want to be someone who sits in a forgotten bar or café hidden in a back alley somewhere ( I don't want a lot of people or a lot of noise. ) There I could sit and sing and play to everyone who needed a break from life. Like in Piano Man where he makes everybody "forget about life for a while"

Sadly I don't have the guts to do this. And probably not the musical skills either. Not even sure if this belongs in this thread.

On the things that you don't like doing:
I used to have this sense of morals growing up that I found myself not having any fun at all. I may be an introvert, but decided to try getting out there and meet new people. I did not go to a house party until my last month of high school. At that point, I did not care anymore and just did things for the fun of it. I enjoyed the first party I went to and got drunk while I was there. I broke one of my moral rules that stated "Never drink or over consume alcoholic drinks" I didn't necessarily lose respect from people for going, but people did see a person that was trying to get out of his shell, if only for 15 minutes.
I did smoke pot at one point. Broke the moral rule about doing drugs. It was fun to try it at the time, but making it a regular habit was not a good idea. Glad I got away from it in the long run
This also ended up leading to smoking cigarettes. Broke that moral rule about doing something that will eventually kill you. Never really been proud of this habit.
Then came the radical life change of losing weight and exercising. I haven't done much exercising recently, but when I first lost the weight, there was that sense of self-esteem that came over me. I was like "Time to show the world who I really am." This lead to regular partying.
When it comes down to partying and drinking though, I prefer a nice laid back setting where people are socializing and getting to know eachother, or with close friends. I don't like being in a large crowd where people are actually trying to pick up other people and the music is blaring so loud that you can't hear anything at all. People are so desperate for attention, and that is the reason why I am bored of the bar scene.

You know, I don't regret the decisions I have made now that I think about it. I stepped out of my comfort zone and made attempts to meet new people. I am still doing that today. There are some things that I could have done better, but why think about it too much.

If I didn't see beauty, I wouldn't try to protect it.