Why must I deal with this sort of thing?

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My younger brother is beyond irritating. He insulted one of my friends, whom he doesn't even know very well, because said friend wears (almost) all black and has his hair in a mohawk. My little brother said this made said friend looked "like he was planing to kill someone"... despite the fact that the person he was talking about is a very friendly, personable individual who wouldn't hurt a fly.
My brother has occasionaly visited my high school and said that it "scares him" because a lot of punks, goths, hippies and gay people go there. Apparently those kinds of people scare him for some reason. Probably just prejudice and fear of those who are different from him.
Also, I was dating a boy at one point, and my brother gave me a load of crap because I was involved in a homosexual relationship. I don't think that should have been any of his concern, and quite frankly, he should just stay out of my business.
What's even worse is that he says I'm "girly" because I enjoy art films like Coffee and Cigarettes or romantic comedies, and/or movies based on Shakespeare. But my brother likes brutal, mindless films like Terminator, so he has no right to talk. He shows too many signs of what I consider to be an "Extreme male brain", and I don't like it.
This is a little more trivial, but every time I use a swear word, even in writing or as a joke, my little brother starts getting all upset and criticizing me for being crude or immoral.
He also asks me for help on math homework, and I do help him out, but most of the time he basically asks me to do problems *for* him. He's in middle school, so he should no better, and when he asks me to help him cheat, I refuse, but he goes into these insane tantrums about how I "Won't help him". He asks me to do a lot of stuff *for* him (his own chores for example), and I absolutely refuse.
The worst part, however, is that he begs me to be "a good big brother" and "play with him", whatever that means (for some reason, I think it means something creepy, and I don't like that)... I'd rather just keep away from him and let him grow up on his own course in his own way, and he nags me for attention by purposefully going into tantrums and spasms and bouncing off the wall shouting nonsense words.
How do I make it clear to him that I need to limit my involvement with him and that he needs to do likewise?

Tell him that you are older, stonger, smater, and have alot of freaky friends that will do stuff to him if he doesnt lay off. They scare him cause he's insecure and immature, and obviously dumb (you can still be dumb even if you are a 4.0 student).

Even better, slap his face off yourself. I know how to get my little sister in line when need be, and we are almost best friends. She just knows who's boss and I dont hurt her that bad, just a non lethal smack to the head gets the point acrossed. But always warn him first and talk abiut. Say "Hey look... Im your Older brother (stress the older part) and we can be friends in all, but i hate it when you tease me, you are my brother you should respect me. and if you dont it will be hell for you, we can do this the easy way or the hard way."

And try to be nice though, shoot some hoops with him or play a game with him. Or if you can go places offer for him to come along, and if he refuses then say "thats your problem" or "whats up your ass?"

Or you could kill him with kindness if that more your style, and if he still disrespects you say "it could be alot worse buddy" then show a fist. And when you say he has a "extrem male brain" not like i know him or your family but I have a guess he is a narcisit, so add some compliments then and there so he feels more secure about himself, just dont over do compliments, that would be counter productive.

Based on being a little sibling and having a little sibling. He WANTS you to love him, he WANTS to hang out with you, he WANTS to be friends with you. I know this because i still wanted all of this when i was mean to my older sib's. And my little sib says this after she is mean and i put her back in line.