ALL I WANT IS TO BE A LADY!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

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I AM SO f*****g THROUGH WITH THIS!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! ALL I WANT IS TO HAVE AN IDENTITY!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! I'VE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE A PLUS SIZE MODEL AND NOW I CAN'T BECAUSE OF THAT STUPID f*****g CHOCOLATE I ATE!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! I CAN'T BE A GAMER ANYMORE BECAUSE OF MY STUPID f*****g BROTHER!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

I MISS BEING A GOTH AND NOT WORRYING ABOUT EVERY LITTLE CALORIE I CONSUME!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !

An identity doesn't have anything to do with your pants size.
Whats the point in being skinny if your even more unhappy?
Eat the goddamn burger, eat the chocolate, and if you don't like the weight your gaining work out an extra bit that week.
Or sit on your ass and fall apart like me...I wouldn't suggest that option though.

Also kick his ass and take the system back, he'll never try and take it again.

Do not panic,

How important is your size to you ? If you want to lose some weight then I would suggest a calm and sensible diet like the weight watcher's diet.

Also have you considered other jobs other than model ?

everything in moderatation.
eat a balanced diet.

and dance-even if its by yourself- play loud booty shaking music while you do housework ( like Im doing right now).

Walk.

Dance sommmore

And if your figure gets a bit curvy and voluptuous-dont worry about it.

Go EZ on beer though.

Way worse than chocolate.
atleast in us guys- makes the gut expand fast. And laying off beer lets it contract again.

Being a lady is about how you conduct yourself and how you treat others. It's about not overdressing nor underdressing. It's about not insulting someone when you want to very badly, or if you do then you do it in a nice way. It's about how you carry yourself and how act. It's not about what you eat or what size you are.

I don't know of any charm schools around anymore that can teach you to be a lady, but I'm sure there are private coaches who give lessons. If you are in the South, call someone on your local Deb society and see if they can refer you or even the Junior League.

If that doesn't work, hoaxing them does.

If you've eaten some chocolate, that's not the end of the world. I thought your diet was going really well? A little slip up won't do much damage if you get back on track tomorrow. Just take a deep breath, drink some water and do a little exercise (even just a ten minute walk round the block) - doing those things should calm you down.

You know what? This has gone too far. I should just be myself. The only reason I try to fit some mold is because I want to be what society wants me to be.

Life isn't about what clothes you wear and all of that. It's about being happy with who you are.

Or you could be just whoever suits your fancy for the day. Some days I'm the Brady Bunch mom, complete with teased hair and polyester vintage, some days I'm goth, some days I'm white trashy, some days I'm a lady to her fingertips, some days I'm even mideivel. I'm pretty happy being like that.

Do what floats your boat sweetie.

Like I said, my youngest daughter (16 tomorrow!) is about your size and while she's not happy with the size she is, she has learned to rock it. She looks very good and doesn't let her size hold her back. Hell, you should see her dance!

Being a lady all the time is a hell of a lot of work, trust me. I'm from the Deep South and was into the social scene for years and I have to tell you it tired me out so bad. Cause that just wasn't me. I wasn't brought up to it. You can easily be a lady, for a short period of time, but to do it 24/7, you have to be brought up to it. It's great actually, until you get mad at somebody. Thats when I always betrayed myself.

If you want to do that stuff, diet and don't eat bad food.

Diets never work, denying yourself something just makes you crave it more. And if you want to be goth, be goth. You wanna be a gamer? Be a gamer. Tell your brother to piss off, he ain't your daddy.

If you want to lose weight drink a lot of water and unsweetened iced tea. It seems to be working for me, slowly.

He claims I "try" to get into his games. I don't try to be like him. My mom, my therapist and I have confirmed that I'm an adult. I can play whatever games I please. I'm not TRYING to be like him!

Ignore him. Whats the worst he can do to you? Just say stuff that annoys you, and that can be ignored. What he says doesn't change anything or make anything true or untrue. It doesn't effect anything if you don't let it.

Eating some chocolate does not mean a lick of difference in the long term.

If you want to lose weight, you just have to eat fewer calories than you expend for some significant period of time. This is a 100% effective way of losing weight. There is literally no way this cannot work. I promise you.

If you gain some weight now, there's no reason you can't lose it later. On the flip side, if you lose weight, you can gain it back. That's just the way it goes.

Don't freak out. Relax.

This is probably his irrational insecurity. Next time just blow it off and don't let it upset you. I am sure it is not easy to do this, but try hard.

People pull all kinds of crazy stuff like this. It sucks but honestly, it's a ridiculous thing for him to make an issue over. You have to see it for what it is--ridiculous.