Too many people, too much everything

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Anyone ever been stuck in a small house with twelve people? Every single day?
I have a big family, and I love them to death, but sometimes, with a five year old sister, two year old foster sister, two puppies, a nine year old brother, and an eleven year old brother all clamoring for you attention while all the the other adults ignore you can be a bit too much.
I feel half dead. I hate being relied on all the time. I have to feed half the family because the other half is too busy, listen to people when they cry of complain, smooth ruffled feathers, and hide everything I am feeling. And I'm not the most even tempered person, either, yet I am the one who usually has to at as peacemaker. I tend to see both sides of a confrontation, so I can say things that please both parties.
I live with my eldest sister in a two bedroom house, splitting the rent, but every day I have to leave within half an hour of getting up, and am dumped with the rest of my family. I rarely leave before eleven at night.
My two older sisters get to go to college, while I have to hold down the fort. My mom is here everyday, but she's working on an online masters programm, so I have to do most things. My dad yells and swears when awake, or acts half drunk due to having severe diabetes. Most of the time he sleeps when he's not at work.
Worse, I am the favorite sister to all my younger siblings because I am the only one to actually listen and give up my time and energy for them.
I'm not allowed to go to school. I'm not even allowed to leave the house alone, because everyone says I'm not capable. And yet I'm deemed capable enough to take care of five younger siblings, and a foster sister?
I just feel so frustrated and bone tired. I'm holed up right now in a corner, because I'm not allowed to go home yet.
I'm stuck in one spot, with no real objective, and no real reason to exist except for the sake of existing. I wish I could just fall asleep and dream forever.
And good Lord, I hate it when I whine like this. But I can't seem to help it.
Anyway, my day sucked. And to top it all off, the two year old peed on me. And I don't even have a change of clothing here. It sucks to be me

Is it possible to find someplace else to live? Like maybe an apartment with one roomate?

I've thought about it, looked at several nice ones, and talked about it too, but I can't drive, the bus makes me sick and my mother would be angry beyond belief. And, I'm sort of needed. I'm sure my family would meddle along just fine without me, but they're used to me being around all the time. I'm usually fairly content with my life. Not happy, but content. I just want more in life than what a have. A purpose would be nice.....

Wow, I definitely know that feeling, when you have no time or space to decompress and everyone's fighting for your attention. You want to give it to them, because they are your family and you want to make them happy, but it's suffocating you.

Is there some reason why your sisters can go to school, but not you? That has really helped me because now I have an air-tight excuse to be alone. Whenever I've had too much from everyone else, I can tell them I need to do my homework, and find a quiet place and just do my homework by myself in peace. Well, relative peace. That might also help you feel like you have a purpose, something to work towards.

I tried for almsot two weeks to get in by myself, but I get pretty nervous in crowds, so waiting in line to sign up is torture. My sisters amnd parents wouldn't help me get in because they were too busy with other things. So, the end result is that I am unable to go to school until next year. Its aggravating, because I begged for help for so long, so I could get in. I hate begging.