I keep crying

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It's not really a depression thing, it's more of a loneliness thing. Yesterday I spent the whole day in without seeing anybody at all, my mum had gone to an all-day wedding party thing, and my dad had gone out and my brother just sat upstairs in his room, and nobody came near nor by, not even just for a quick hello and a cup of tea. And I just felt so lonely, and kept on bursting into tears a few times. This is quite unusual, because when I cry I only cry once, then get over it, but yesterday, and this afternoon, I've been crying just for no reason.

All I want is a cuddle, but nobody will cuddle me. They just think I'm being silly, and anyway, if somebody did cuddle me, I'll just end up crying and soaking their shoulder. I need the man I love to hold me, understand me and soothe me, not minding that I'm making him wet with tears. But he can't do that because he's married to some b***h (sorry had to call her that because whoever I fancy are always married, the guys that ask me out are ones who aren't my type). I think this is one reason what's making me so tearful and lonely.

Does anyone else feel like this? I always thought Aspies didn't cry over anything, wish that was true for me.

I cry all the time and wonder why people wont talk to me all of a sudden and I have no one-I spent the whole labor day weekend alone and no one around or they were and just didnt want me-if I feel I hurt someone unknowingly I get upset and cry too.

Hopefully I won't be accused of sexism, but sometimes women cry for 'no reason'. A few of my female friends have told me they do this. Personally I like solitude, but general loneliness affects me too.

Without being calloused, you need to get out and meet people - it's the only way. Depression is not uncommon in young Aspies, and various factors can lead to it. From what I understand of it, depression is numbness and lethargy, not crying.

What I do, when I can't interact with people, is do something I love. I force myself to do it because it doesn't make me happier straight away, but persisting does. Just distract yourself and eventually you'll teach yourself not to think about it. Then when you are happy, you could find that man you are looking for, or he might find you.

Chin up.

Well, it's another reason why I don't want to move out and live on my own. I become too wrapped up in loneliness then become depressed because of it. I know having time to myself is important to me (I'd rather that than work full time), but I only like it to a certain extent. I like a bit of both really, being around people as much as being alone.

I did do voluntary work today, which I do every Sunday, which I enjoy and it's worth my time, but when I got home I kind of felt like crying again.

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When I said "get out" I didn't mean move out. I know I certainly would not be ready for that any time soon. If the urge to cry persists, I would consider some form of medication. I know two people who have been on medication and it made them feel better. Or maybe just sit in public and wath people go by - not exactly company, but something.

I have said to one or two of my friends that I feel society would be better if it were designed by Aspies. NTs may call it creepy, but I would certainly consider going to a place where it is socially acceptable to experience affection. Not sexual, but like the support one might get from a chaplain and then some.

Oh, I see... I'll change my question then.
Could you ask some of your colleagues just to spend time with you?

Sweet Pea hugs