Am I too weird even for Wrong Planet?

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I have been posting every day since I joined this site and I have even sent a few very friendly (I think) personal messages. It seems like this site is just a repeat of every other attempt to connect with other people in that it seems to me that I am too idiosyncratic even to say "hello". Any advice? Should I tone down my super powers to fit in, even here? Where do I go if I don't fit in here?

no one is too weird for wrongplanet

I know the feeling bud. I used to spend all my time on a social anxiety forum about 5 years ago when I got my first diagnosis. I even had a pretty close friend on there. But then, I started to feel like I was being ignored by the forum people, and then my friend stopped talking to me. I had to leave before my depression got bad. I kinda put it down to the fact that a lot of the posts were from a large-ish group of people who had been there a lot longer than me. Am I babbling...?
Any way. I know the feeling. I'll keep ya company I only signed up yesterday.

The only weird thing is expecting to form a social network from using this site.

Oh, there may be some people here who have done that, but those are the ones I try to avoid. You'll see them in action from time to time on the boards. So it's nothing to aspire to be in my opinion.

I couldn't agree more with that quote. I used to have some really good friends at school. But now, if someone even hints at the idea of socializing and it wasn't my idea, I freak out!!

Same with women (to an extent, anyway). Once a casanova, now a.. radish?

Give it time. You only joined a couple of days ago. I didn't make any friends during the first couple of years that I posted on this site. I have only made three really good friends from using this site since 2007. Lots of acquaintances, but I find it hard to bond with them because I'm still afraid of letting people get too close to me.

This is one of the more popular sites, so it generates the potential for more response than many other sites, but there are many others to check out, if you do a search on the available websites associated with the autism spectrum.

I personally find it much harder to connect online, than I did in real life, but in real life, I did most of the listening and rarely any talking.

There is no choice online, but to communicate with words if one wants to connect, where everything about you is judged based on your words. One doesn't gain the same human connection that a smile or a twinkle in the eye can provide, with rarely much knowledge of whom one is really talking to. As a younger person I would have never imagined that many people would have even been interested in discussing issues with anonymous people they cannot personally identify through more than written words, but things change, as text communication is becoming more popular than verbal communication.

Looking at your posts, from other posts I've seen here, it seems like your posts fit in fine, but it takes time for people to recognize your Avator and respond, per all the anonymous people that are participating.

Thank you all for your cogent responses. I think the consensus so far is two-fold: 1) Keep my expectations realistic. I am not going to revolutionize my way of being in the world overnight by posting a few dozen times on an internet forum, and 2) Give it time. Any benefit I will derive from this site is likely to require patience and diligence, as all good things do......

I am just going to "do me", as the cool kids say, and let the universe take care of the rest.

we're all in this "boat" together and unlike out there in the world of NT's, we're more understanding and compassionate to each others (similar needs)
I think it's bed time for me.. Good night guys, and take care

I think you might be exactly the correct amount of weird for Wrong Planet. Keep in mind that the people you are messaging might be socially phobic about replying or not know what to say in response to you. Do give it time, and try not to be hard on yourself.

I feel the same way, that I am too broken and wierd to be here.

I have made one true friend here in all of my posts... But I keep tryin'. I think I might've made another one recently, not totally sure yet to be honest. I think it helps to have interesting and relatable posts, a sense of humor, empathy, and compassion.

How original!

Let me direct your attention to this!