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Is it really so hard for people to leave my bloody towels alone? I suppose maybe some context would help. Anyways earlier this week I was taking a shower and stepped out expecting to dry my feet on a towel I had put there. I was having a foot fungi problem so I didn't exactly want to step out of the shower onto my bathroom rug that has bits of fuzz and crap on it. The idea was step on the clean towel, spray crap on my feet to help kill the problem.

Of course the freaking towel was gone which I was frusterated about. Then today I saw that it was put with the general household towels(I keep mine in my bathroom or my bedroom) so I of course was wondering who took it. My moms boyfriend said he did, so I asked if he could leave my towels alone next time since I had put it there for a reason. Then he totally cut me off to tell me how it would get moldy and he was washing it and bla bla bla and threw a 'sorry' in there somewhere but not a sincere one. So I got a bit flustered and told him its my towel and he should leave my stuff alone if I ask him to then he started raising his voice so I yelled 'its my f*****g towel, alright.' Then he caused a big deal calling my mom to ask her to ask me to 'stop yelling' when he's the one who just had to try and justify taking my towel and then acting like I had no right to request he leave my things alone. Then he started going on about how he said sorry...but it was more one of those 'well sorry, I was doing laundry and you're going to get mad because I took your towel..not really 'sorry I'll remember not to do that next time.'

So yeah I went back in my room, threw a plate on the floor and then when I was a little more calm I went upstairs...was petting one of the cats and then(though it was probably an accident) my brother dropped a hair brush right next to me causing me to jump and getting me all on edge all over again so I came back down to my room. Would it really have been so hard for the guy to simply agree not to take towels out of my bathroom anymore rather then trying to justify it? I mean this isn't even the first time he's done something with something of mine......last time he pretty much dumped out the contents of a laundry basket on my floor(I was switching to a different room in the house so yeah I was trying to organize everything) but he decided he needed 'that' laundry basket so it was ok to just dump my stuff on the floor...........when I confronted him about that he claimed he didn't dump it but I find that doubtful since it was all in a pile with the things that where on top on the bottom. I'm bloody stressed out enough as is, I don't need to be worrying about my moms boyfriend messing about with my things. Question is what the hell was he even doing in my room in the first place and he knows damn well it gets to me if people mess with my things without asking its hard enough keeping track of where I put my own things.

Yeah, I dislike it when things aren't where I remember them. I stress out about it...
Maybe you should say that he should come to you and ask first because it doesn't bode well when it's done without your knowledge and it occupies your mind therefore stressing you out?

I have....I've told him to at least ask first, and if I am not there just leave my things alone, I've told him just to straight up leave my stuff alone. Its like he thinks he has a right to everything in the house even though I have repeatedly confronted him about messing with things of mine. Not to mention just the general idea of someone I don't even get along with too well snooping around in my room and bathroom when I am not here is kinda creepy to me.

You have my utmost sympathy, because if there is ever one thing that drives my blood to a boil is when someone messes with my stuff. It is one of the reasons why I "forgot" my homework the most often back at school, because I simply couldn't bloody find it. My mother always said "I just put it on a pile!"... but that is not my order. My room usually looks rather messy, but you could ask me for every single item I own and I could point you out its exact location. I am even capable of keeping a regular order, and I do make so every once in a while, so everything looks neat. In fact, I do that quite often recently, but these are MY things and I put the where I want. I can't count the number of times where my mother just took my stuff and put it somewhere, and then later refused to admit she had touched it (and of course, it always miraciously appeared in a place where I would NEVER put the item, and first thing my mother would state when I found it is: "Well, I didn't put it there!" She stopped doing that after I once went into her room and rearranged her stuff a little bit. I am usually not that into revenge and retribution, but it was a means to show her my desperation, how I was feeling if I was just not able to find my belogings.
Besides that, it simply has something degrading if you have to constantly ask another person to hand you your property.

He sounds like a pervert to me.

I've considered that but it doesn't seem like it, seems like he's just nosy......he's nosy about everyones business. If my moms ok with that great she can put up with it, but I certainly don't want to I mean I am 23 I should be able to have my boundries such as stay away from my crap. But no he always has some justification about why he needed to do that. I am hoping to get on SSI and maybe be able to move out or something.

I mean what does a towel that specifically belongs to me in my bathroom on the floor for a specific use have to do with the general household laundry getting done? especially considering I am kind of an adult and do my own laundry including towels since I feel I ought to be responsible for my things.