Cant interpret or notice subtle things

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I cant pick up subtle social cues and happenings.
Recently there was a fight in my office and i never noticed anything which was happening just around there.
Next day my colleague told me that one of the girl said something to other girl the other girl went to the loo started crying
her friends joined her in and consoled her.
Everything was happening around me and i missed this
This happens often and i cant read subtle things happening around me

Only when someone else informs me then i realise or notice things.

Does this happen with anyone else?

That happens to me quite a bit. One day, I'll realize, "Hmm, I haven't seen So-and-So around for a while," so I'll ask someone and find out they quit months ago. I feel kinda bad because I didn't even notice that they were gone.

I do this, too. Although I'm usually the one causing the distress, which is, in turn, distressing for me. Sometimes I'll make an inappropriate comment that seemed harmless to me. It's only when someone pulls me aside and tells me I was offensive that I notice it. (And even then, it usually doesn't make much sense as to why it was wrong.) Then I feel bad because I don't like to cause pain or discomfort to people, so I go to that person and I apologize. The person will tell me that it wasn't a big deal, that I didn't do anything wrong and that confuses me. It just doesn't add up. I don't know if the first person is lying, misinterpreted the situation or telling the truth. I don't know if the second person is being honest or telling a white lie because he's too embarrassed to tell me I did something wrong. Regardless, it makes me a nervous wreck and all I want to do is find a nice, secluded corner and read a book.