Is there hope for me?

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Given my litany of problems (which I've discussed quite a bit in other threads here, but the Cliff's Notes version is this: No GF due to social problems, no job for various reasons both within and outside of me, bad social skills) I am wondering, is there hope for me? I am 25, going on 26, and I am starting to fear myself.

I am normally a very upbeat person. But this June, I just CRACKED. I slit my wrists in rage, and one of my friends sent me a card saying how the world is full of wacko people. I get this feeling because of who I am, as an Aspie who's come to terms with himself, that the world is just cruel to me, and I'm cursed, snakebitten, whatever. It breaks my heart.

((((((((hugs)))))))) i'm sorry you snapped like that. i hope things improve for you from this point forward.

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Sorry to hear that you feel that way. I can't really give you any advice, since the way I deal with my own problems is very unhealthy and sure to run me into trouble eventually. Hope you feel better.

I think everyone has room for improvement. I wouldn't give up hope at such a young age. You do have advantages that many of us who are older and have struggled with these issues without an explanation wish we had at your age. In the end, it will really depend on your outlook and the opportunities that come your way that you are able to take advantage of.

Thank you; I've had days over the past few years where I fear I am running out of time. *sobs*

At your age i was facing similar problems thrown out of many jobs, rejected for marriage and no friends.
Finally i managed to work at a place with abusive boss and pay delayed upto 6 months and somehow a marriage proposal worked out for me....
After that financial woes, a baby and unable to manage it, all relatives cut off from my spouse because
they didnt like me.
At 34 i work at a low paying job, again friendless, not much to do socially but taking care of my spouse
and kid.
Keep hope.
Atleast in abroad countries govt. provides support services
Here in India its not there.

Regarding my parents: We get into so many misunderstandings, and my mom is so prissy that I cannot take it; I have even threatened on several occasions to file a no-contact order against both my parents.

Before you write this off as being harsh, let me say this: My parents and I have never quite gotten along that well because of how I am, since they come from a society that would make Mormons look like hippies (and I certainly do not mean to offend any Mormons reading this), and they have at certain times taken me to the edge. It's sickening for me.

I don't know if this is the same sort of feeling. I used to have small panic attacks where I felt as if I had to do something right now or else my life would be a waste. The problem was I had no idea what I had to do. For me, that sense of running out of time is quite stressful because it seems to come when I don't have a clear sense of my goals.

The state of mind I would get into was sort of like feeling I was running ahead of a wall of water that, if I even took a second to look behind to see if it was nearer or farther away, it would come crashing down on me and I would be killed.

I haven't had those kinds of minor panic attacks in many years. My guess is they eased away in my late thirties. I don't know if they are just part and parcel with a certain kind of personality or if that feeling comes as a result of a society that implies everyone is a failure if they are not wildly successful. At any rate, that attitude in society certainly has hurt a lot of people.

In regard to your parents, it sounds like you need to get away as soon as possible. I hate to see relationships fall apart, but perhaps for your sanity, a bit of distance might help. And heck, your relationship with them might improve if you are not around them as much.

Good luck.

I will say to you the same I said to my own kid once: just because they are relatives doest not mean you have to love them. You love the people who loves you. If they do not love you, you do not have any obligation to love them. They are "the parents". They are supposed to love you. How can you love someone who does not love you?

I have issues with my family, too. My mother does not love me, either. I cried a lot about that. I just cried all I had to. It does not hurt anymore.

My ONE wish, is for some woman to say "I love you" to me....

... and mean it, I guess...

Exactly.

I did say that I feared I was cursed..... I guess I may be right. *sobs again*

What makes you think that? Did you do something to annoy OliveOilMom?

No. I just think that given my spate of bad luck over the years, I think I am.