Should I leave Wrong Planet?

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Would you guys like me to leave? I think that I should. It seems like I spend a lot of my time here arguing with people over my beliefs. Hardly anyone here agrees with my views, despite the fact that I only want what's best for people on the Autism spectrum.

Also, since I've joined, I have made a few enemies but I haven't really made any close friends here.

If I need to find somewhere else to post permanently, so be it.

Argument is how the best decisions are made. You shouldn't feel bad if people disagree with you. You should feel happy that the disagreement is bringing you both to a more rational conclusion.

Why do you need people to agree with you?

I sense that many people here dislike me because of my opinions. They view me as a nuisance. One of the reasons I joined was to make more friends and I don't think I've achieved that at all.

I cannot speak for everyone here, but I know personally I will never dislike someone or consider them a nuisance for expressing their honest, considered opinions, regardless of whether or not I agree with them. I have a great deal of respect for anyone who has the passion of their conviction to argue for it in the face of opposition from others. Some of my best friends are those who I get in the most frequent arguments with.

I just don't think that people here like me.

How are you determining that? What would you accept as evidence that people did like you?

There isn't anyone here I'd consider to be a friend. The nature of some users' posts aimed towards me are simply indicative of dislike. I'd like to become friends with someone here.

What have you done to try to make friends?

I also hold beliefs that are in the minority here on WrongPlanet, but I've found that if I keep them to myself, there are less hurt feelings and arguments that way. One thing I've learned over the years is that you don't have to share beliefs with someone in order to be their friend.

I have simply been myself. Don't those with similar opinions naturally come together?

Sometimes. Sometimes finding similar opinions is rare. I don't believe it's a requirement to be friends with someone though. I guess you are saying that no one has sought you out to be your friend. Perhaps you should try seeking some of the other people on this forum out. We aspies are shy, you know . We are generally very welcoming of anyone willing to make the first move on being friends though.

Now, why would you want to do that? I argue with people over my beliefs all the time.

Illegitimi non carborundum!

I don't want to see you leave.

I take no issue with you. I actually prefer to have people around me who have strong opinions. It lets me know where I stand and how to relate to them. People who agree with me for the sake of politeness annoy me to no end as I much prefer to have a discussion most of the time. This is especially true on the internet.

As far as it goes, I have many times the number of posts on here that you do, yet I have no friends here either. I don't think I have enemies but I don't really have any "partners in crime", so to speak. My point is that you are not alone in this, even if it means you are alone on here in terms of forming relationships. It may be that no one here shares your interests yet and that if you stick around eventually someone will. It may also mean that others with common interests to yours have not noticed you yet. These things take time.

I don't think you (or anyone) should feel the need to leave- there's nothing wrong with some debating. One of the reasons I came to this site was to gain new perspectives, so for me, the more discussion I find the better.

It's hard to make friends through threads, and those friendships are often very short lived. Have you tried PM'ing people?