Tired of not having a culture.

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I'm just so fing sick of not having somewhere that I belong. A world that makes sense. And worst of all this site which is suppose to be a haven is totally lacking in anything to latch on too.

I donno I'm seriously frustrated. The answers just seem so dam obvious to me, on how it should be.


It's like findin out your gay all of a sudden. However when you seek out your kind all they seem to wanna talk about their troubles and difficulties. No one wants do actually change for the better, or even adapt.

Yet as soon as I point this out, I feel like I'm being attacked for wanting to amount to something in my life.

I feel like everyone here just wants to play victim or ignore there situation altogether. The few that actually try, are so caught up on things that I personally find trivial. I'm tired of waiting to meet others on my level.


I just feel like an elitist cynical as*hole. I just wanna improve my life, I don't wanna be reminded constantly that there is something wrong with me, it's insufferable.

This is often how I feel in school. I withdraw because everyone else seems so focused on the trivial that I just cannot even try to fit in. That said, sometimes people turn to communities such as this for the empathy and support. Many of these individuals are out in the world everyday trying to make their lives better, and struggling to improve themselves--we all need somewhere to escape from that, though, and focus on ourselves and our feelings, desires, musings, etc.
It is always the easy road to point out how things should be, but it is much more difficult to make it happen. In my short experience here, this is not a place for counseling, necessarily, but a place to connect and sympathize! (There are, however, forums where you can discuss and problem solve difficulties here.)
Why don't you start some threads about what you think is important and what you would like to focus on here? You may be surprised that the community rises to the occasion to support you!

I know the feeling. this is the place where I feel most at home, yet for some reason I can never stick around - I end up going back to Slashdot/ BoingBoing/ Metafilter /Reddit. They seem to have more purpose, but I always despair of them as well, as they're pretty shallow places, and will attack people who don't follow the hive mind. So I come back here. Here the people have depth, but are just busy struggling.

True, we have the politics/philosophy forum. In theory that is a place for considered debates and getting things done, but in practice is overwhelmed by uninformed ideas. Or maybe I am the uninformed one and cannot recognize depth.

I think this is the whole definition of autism: having one's own views and difficulty connecting with other. It can be done, we can connect, but it's very hard work. For us networking is not fun.

EDIT: is that your real age? If so, cool!