Losing friends

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I have lost friends over the years and some of them I have dumped myself.

I had one aspie friend who I was friends with for a year and then I asked him a question and he blocked me after that. I found out a week later he did that and then he came crawling back to me but things were never the same after that. We both had AS so I thought he would understand me better and give me the benefit of the doubt if I were to say something wrong but since I then knew he be capable of getting upset with me and think of me as rude and insensitive, I had a hard time trusting him so our conversations were never the same again. I just felt betrayed. So there went him.

I remember one drama in 2003 on a forum and I got involved in it because two teens attacked me and another member decided to create another forum and not allow us three to post on it and he didn't care if I was the victim. So anyone who posted on his forum, I thought they were against me and betrayed me so I stopped talking to them.

I had one aspie friend for four years and then one day he said babies were stupid and it upset me because he insulted my child. So I also stopped talking to him.

I had one other aspie friend from 2008 and she called me mean over one of my April Fools joke I did on here because she fell for it so I decided we were not friends anymore. I don't see her online anymore anyway.

Then recently just last weekend I had a new friend and she was tough and I enjoyed being her friend and then she tells me to grow up because I don't like criminals and don't see them as good people so I said fine, then don't talk to me. I deleted both her profiles from my Facebook. Geez I wonder if she thinks child molesters or rapists are good people too or child abusers. (Apparently this was a misunderstanding but oh well, too late now)

I once made a new friend online only three days later I dump him as a friend because he thought one of my questions I asked was stupid.

I had another friend I was friends with since I was 18 and one day I was talking about something that bothered me and his response was "get over it." Boom to my block list.

I had one other friend who would keep IMing me and then take too long to reply and I got so sick of it, I blocked him. If he is too busy, he shouldn't be talking to me and I got sick of it. Got sick of him IMing me and then says nothing after that or takes like 20 minutes to respond. I do not get why talk to someone if you are too busy. I don't go IMing people if I can't talk. If I IM them and they don't respond or take too long, then that is different, it just means I caught them at the wrong time. If it happens every time, then I assume they don't want to chat with me and if they want to chat with me, they will IM me. I don't see there as myself dumping them, I see it as them dumping me and they didn't have the balls to tell me or to block me so they figure if they just ignore me, I will go away and I do.


There have been others and I have dumped them over the years because they went in my bad catagory or because I thought they were my friend and it turned out they were never my true friend or they would have understood or because I felt I was not their true friend over a mistake I make and I felt I should have known better since I have known them for so long or because they judged my situation without bothering to ask me any questions and they just jumped to conclusions instead and wouldn't understand my situation so I saw they just showed their true colors or because they were not nice to me or because they were sex pigs. Now I have decided if anyone insults my husband, bye bye them. (Yeah I realize some hypocrisy in this)


Sometimes losing friends hurts but I always think it's worth it and sometimes I think I dumped them over dumb reasons but too late now. I feel like a rotten friend then so that would mean I was never their true friend to begin with.

Last edited by League_Girl on 21 Oct 2012, 7:14 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Well, the more I'm on here, the more I'm lacking friends, so it's pretty obvious how it is right now at this point.

The more you post on here, the less time you have to answer your friends, so if you post on here for like 24/7 for example it's obvious that you're using this board as a main source for contact which is the reason why this board exists.

But yeah, narcissism and selfishness runs high in society these days so it's no wonder that a lot of people turn out to be completely lonely without lacking anything serious in the status department.

I blame overpopulation and bad politics.

Friends sure are tough to make and keep

League Girl, reading your post makes me want to further build my confidence that I don't need other people. Human beings are just so... well, they're unpredictable and they are really, really unfair. It makes me want a future where a person can be self-contained.

It is heard to keep, but a few people are willing to talk to me. It's sad what society has become.

In my experience, friends are people who like your things and want to play with them. They aren't people who are terribly concerned with you, they just want to use your stuff. When they get bored of your stuff, they leave unless you get better stuff.

Not really sure why society expects us to put such a high value on that sort of relationship.

That is what my best friends did to me as a child. Come over just to play with my stuff and then they leave. I didn't understand the concept of using someone. They would also come over to play if they had no one else to play with. Also two of my best friends were cousins and they would always get locked out of their home because their parents and grandparents didn't want them around so they lock them out of the house. They would go over and play if they had no one else to play with and they stay until the doors got unlocked at home. I am not sure if that counts as using me. I do know they were not there just to play with me, they were there because they had no one else to play with and they had no other home to go to so they went to mine.