How can I stop over analyzing and control my emotions better

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Yesterday, my family and I were visiting my older brother in college. He is in a singing group, so we got to see him perform, which was great! I felt happy for him, I truly did. However, something came over me after the show. From seeing all the attention my brother was getting from his friends and our family, I felt something horrible, jealousy. Quite possibly my least favorite feeling, I felt a bit jealous of him. I wanted to be proud of him, be able to tell him that I thought he did an excellent job, but I couldn't do it. Later, we all went to this restaurant in the hotel we were staying at. Everyone was happy and talking to each other, except for me. My other older brother looked over, concerned, and asked me what was on my mind. I tried to tell him nothing, but then my mom wanted to see what was wrong. Next thing you know, I'm having a emotional breakdown over the fact that I was jealous of my older brother and that I couldn't compliment him. The thing is, I wasn't upset because "Oh, I wish I was him!", it was more like "Damn it! Why do I have to be envious of him! Why am I such an ego-maniac!" I once read someone's joke online that "Aspergers is nothing, but a medical excuse to be a self-centered as*hole", which upset me quite a lot. That's one of the things on my mind when I had my breakdown, that I always want to be center of attention, despite the fact that I already have friends and family. Instead of just saying to myself "Okay, I'm a bit jealous, but it doesn't matter because I'm proud of him, I kept thinking "I'm so jealous of him! Oh God, what is wrong with me!?!"

I need help, I want to find ways of controlling my feelings and to stop over analyzing them so much.

I've felt this way before too. It comes from insecurity.

Usually I feel this way when I am depressed (there are periods when I'm depressed for days or weeks). Are there other factors you may be overlooking? For example, have you been depressed lately?

When I'm depressed I think thoughts exactly like this and am extremely hard on myself, harder than anyone else.

I have heard that a way of dealing with emotions is to develop "mindful thinking" or "mindfulness", which basically means that you stay in the moment. It kind of lets those other thoughts be pushed in the background while you stay centered within the given moment.