Is it so wrong?

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The guy who attacked me not so long ago had been effectively stalking me for months and I was unaware of this until the weeks prior to him attacking me. Even then I wasn't aware of thee extent to which he had become... obsessed seems like the right word.

And now my friends are coming out with lots of information that could've prevented this entire thing. I'm not saying it would have but the attitude that he was just weird and shouldn't be singled out as a "creep" was behind people not saying anything. The possibility of me "overreacting" to having a full on stalker.

That makes me sick. So I've pretty much been cutting ties with people. And lots of people are saying I'm "overreacting" in that regard...

And I've cut ties with about 20 people. I don't even know how these people would define "overreacting" but the overreaction I avoided at first was calling my brother instead of going to the hospital. Knowing my brother would've been completely willing to find my rapist and beat him to death with a shovel. I mean that is what I specifically wanted to do.

And I didn't... I mean that's not even an overreaction to FEEL that way but... I am just disgusted with people.

I don't blame you for cutting ties. Those people seriously let you down.

Agreed! It's doubtful they'll learn their lesson though - they're already accusing you of overreacting instead of apologizing for failing to protect you. They'll usually just choose to believe they did nothing wrong in order to carry on with their own selfish little lives.

So sorry you have a stalker - I know how scary that is (been there!) Hope he hasn't touched you and you get him stopped! Can the police help?

He's already in jail. He broke into my house about three weeks ago and attacked me.

It was only after he'd been arrested and after it was clear to everyone that he'd completely f****d me up that it became apparently acceptable to call him out for being a creep.

It's so backwards here. This whole f*****g region.

Yeah, it's their way of copping out instead of helping.
They somewhat disgust me as...... let's just say I know a lot but it's not my decision to tell anyone, it's up to meems whether she wants to discuss it all but personally I don't think it's a good thing to encourage her to talk about it. She has the choice and however she wants to talk about what I know is up to her as well.

meems, I'm deeply sorry and if you ever need anyone just to vent or just to talk or whatever, I can.

^uh... I wouldn't be posting if I didn't need to talk about it.
I think WP is the only place I've been okay talking about it.
But yeah, don't encourage me, because my tiny lady brain can't possibly make such decisions in my best interest ..

Meems, you have my complete sympathy. Stalkers, rapists, pedophiles, and other deviants who prey on the weak deserve no sympathy whatsoever, in my opinion. I believe that you are completely right to cut off all contact with those who were and are more sympathetic to your attacker than to you.

How could they even think that you might be over-reacting? Such people make me sick! How could they possibly take his side and expect you to still consider them as friends?

I hope you can find refuge and the help you need to recover. I hope that you see justice being done, too.

I feel the same.

I hear ya bro; I am very tough on such people........ in fact, the first sign of me noticing, I call the police! (And I am serious about that.)

It's not just your region. The same thing happens here too and people reacted exactly as you described.
Even afterwards, plenty were still in denial.
I think you absolutely did the right thing by cutting ties with them - nothing good can come from being around people like that.

*hugs*

I honestly don't know what to say except that you have my uttermost empathy.

Exactly. I've been monitoring the behavior of neurotypicals since moving, because I was trying to make friends, and weed out the potential dangers. I've been learning that even under extraordinary circumstances, neurotypicals will deny something is wrong, in order to feel like the world is "ok". If you point out something is wrong, they will often agree one moment, then vacillate and change their mind. It's very strange. I am sorry that it has potentially caused so much pain and turmoil in your life, when it is true it might have been prevented.

This thread has kinda made me feel better.