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Sweetleaf
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05 Nov 2012, 8:16 pm

Seriously, for example while I was at my friends house my brother talked to me on facebook or texted me every day about how he missed me and wanted to hang out. So I finally come down on Halloween and he invited me to come chill with some of his friends, most are a bit younger so already a little akward not that I mind hanging out with people under 23 though I prefer at least 16 and up because I view 16 as true adulthood when one can start making decisions for themselves I am in the U.S so that may be taboo here but in Germany the drinking age is 16 so I blame it on my heritage German, Norwegian, Irish because it makes sense to me most people I know first tried at least cigarettes at 16 or 15 obvious dissapointment in the voice so I wanted to just go home but my brother wanted me to stick around then me and him just hung out with another friend of his.

And since that night he just goes off to chill with friends alone, not that I am expecting him to invite me every time I know he probably wants just time with his friends two but its just annoying he bugs me to come back down from my friends house and than doesn't even want to hang out. My sister says she wants to hang out but is always busy, my cousin says she wants to hang out but its like hell trying to get ahold of her to make a plan. Then there is my aunt but uhh I always drink to much when I hang out with her, I realize that is more my bad than hers but still. I just end up feeling lonely and isolated no matter how much effort I think I've made to try and connect with people and stuff.


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05 Nov 2012, 8:57 pm

Sweetleaf, this has nothing whatsoever to do with your post, because I don't have any advice to give or anything about that, but I was wondering if you ever saw what I posted in your thread about wanting to move out, in Members Only. I'm only asking because the guy has just got up there and is gonna find a place soon and start looking for a roomate real fast. If you are interested, I want to talk to him first so I can tell him I already found him one and not to bother looking. BTW, I didn't suggest it to you just because he was looking for one, he can handle that himself, I remembered him talking about it and your post reminded me of that and so I thought it would be a good opportunity for you.


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05 Nov 2012, 9:20 pm

OliveOilMom wrote:
Sweetleaf, this has nothing whatsoever to do with your post, because I don't have any advice to give or anything about that, but I was wondering if you ever saw what I posted in your thread about wanting to move out, in Members Only. I'm only asking because the guy has just got up there and is gonna find a place soon and start looking for a roomate real fast. If you are interested, I want to talk to him first so I can tell him I already found him one and not to bother looking. BTW, I didn't suggest it to you just because he was looking for one, he can handle that himself, I remembered him talking about it and your post reminded me of that and so I thought it would be a good opportunity for you.


Not sure if I did I will have to go back and check.


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06 Nov 2012, 2:14 am

Sweetleaf wrote:
Seriously, for example while I was at my friends house my brother talked to me on facebook or texted me every day about how he missed me and wanted to hang out. So I finally come down on Halloween and he invited me to come chill with some of his friends, most are a bit younger so already a little akward not that I mind hanging out with people under 23 though I prefer at least 16 and up because I view 16 as true adulthood when one can start making decisions for themselves I am in the U.S so that may be taboo here but in Germany the drinking age is 16 so I blame it on my heritage German, Norwegian, Irish because it makes sense to me most people I know first tried at least cigarettes at 16 or 15 obvious dissapointment in the voice so I wanted to just go home but my brother wanted me to stick around then me and him just hung out with another friend of his.

And since that night he just goes off to chill with friends alone, not that I am expecting him to invite me every time I know he probably wants just time with his friends two but its just annoying he bugs me to come back down from my friends house and than doesn't even want to hang out. My sister says she wants to hang out but is always busy, my cousin says she wants to hang out but its like hell trying to get ahold of her to make a plan. Then there is my aunt but uhh I always drink to much when I hang out with her, I realize that is more my bad than hers but still. I just end up feeling lonely and isolated no matter how much effort I think I've made to try and connect with people and stuff.


I'm actually German, Native American and Irish. Sorry to hear that your brother isn't taking you along when he goes to hang out with friends. Sure, they are younger. But I've always personally hit it off better with individuals who were either younger or older than I was. It's depressing to be surrounded by people - You see potential options to hang out but things place themselves in the way and blockade the attempts. Trying to hang out with people - And excuses being made or "issues" coming up always hurt me more than not having the options at all. Not sure if you're the same way.



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06 Nov 2012, 3:35 pm

ComradeKael wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Seriously, for example while I was at my friends house my brother talked to me on facebook or texted me every day about how he missed me and wanted to hang out. So I finally come down on Halloween and he invited me to come chill with some of his friends, most are a bit younger so already a little akward not that I mind hanging out with people under 23 though I prefer at least 16 and up because I view 16 as true adulthood when one can start making decisions for themselves I am in the U.S so that may be taboo here but in Germany the drinking age is 16 so I blame it on my heritage German, Norwegian, Irish because it makes sense to me most people I know first tried at least cigarettes at 16 or 15 obvious dissapointment in the voice so I wanted to just go home but my brother wanted me to stick around then me and him just hung out with another friend of his.

And since that night he just goes off to chill with friends alone, not that I am expecting him to invite me every time I know he probably wants just time with his friends two but its just annoying he bugs me to come back down from my friends house and than doesn't even want to hang out. My sister says she wants to hang out but is always busy, my cousin says she wants to hang out but its like hell trying to get ahold of her to make a plan. Then there is my aunt but uhh I always drink to much when I hang out with her, I realize that is more my bad than hers but still. I just end up feeling lonely and isolated no matter how much effort I think I've made to try and connect with people and stuff.


I'm actually German, Native American and Irish. Sorry to hear that your brother isn't taking you along when he goes to hang out with friends. Sure, they are younger. But I've always personally hit it off better with individuals who were either younger or older than I was. It's depressing to be surrounded by people - You see potential options to hang out but things place themselves in the way and blockade the attempts. Trying to hang out with people - And excuses being made or "issues" coming up always hurt me more than not having the options at all. Not sure if you're the same way.


well I went with, I am just not too sure he mentioned the fact I was coming with, But yeah it seemed like a problem I had come so it made things pretty awkward and I wasn't sure what to do so I awkwardly stayed till we got picked up by another of his friends. had to go home by like 10 so we ended up just going home after that. It was just awkward and of course I kind of take things personally so when my showing up creates that reaction its very awkward. And I guess not everyone else IRL sucks, I kinda do to...i mean its not like I don't understand why its not fun or enjoyable to be around someone severely depressed(I mean I have had times I just want to slam my head against the wall due to hearing too much about something really depressing so I imagine others can have that reaction. , but it still just seems so unfair that I drive people away a lot of the time with how I feel and such.


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