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All these freaking diagnoses I have.

Schizoaffective disorder.
Obsessive-compulsive disorder
Generalized anxiety disorder
Idiopathic hypersomnia/ADHD (the two frequently go together).
Bipolar type II (major depression with nasty crying spells ended some time ago, but I still the weird mood swings still occur).
Asperger's Syndrome.

The evening, I'm worn out, can think, tired, can't focus. Slept like 7-8 hours last night, which should be enough, but then I had about a 2.5 hr nap late morning/early afternoon. Sucks. Just tired.

At least I'm not agitated like I used to be, but I'm still not where I want to be.

Really wish had a girlfriend. Had one for a couple months a couple months ago; I guess she wasn't the right one.

Bill

Start an exercise program?

Take some meds?

Calm down, maybe?

I do exercise, I do take meds. Quite a bit of both. I'm not agitated or suicidal, but sick of life.

Unless I'm saying I'm looking for specific, concrete advice, I rarely am. Usually I'm just looking for empathy.

On an Asperger's board?! !

Meh, don't let all those diagnosis overwhelm you, I always think that the diagnosis are for the paper pushers, desk jockeys, suits, the business side of things. when in reality, all this stuff overlaps, intertwines, weaves, did I say overlaps? lol

I suppose I should have communicated this before, but there are essentially at least two types of empathy, loosely put: The ability to put yourself in somebody else's place and know what they are thinking and feeling without being told; and then, once told, to show compassion for that problem.

I think empathy in the second sense is possible for people with Asperger's and other ASDs.

So, in this forum,. The Haven, its seems possible show at least that you care other people since they already told you how they feel. You don't need a lot of mushy or flowery words; just a few words that you read what they wrote. (For instance, I'm on Facebook with a WP friend, and when I tell her something that bothers me, etc., she responds, "I'm sorry [that bothers you]" That doesn't take a whole lot of the first kind of empathy I listed above.)

I'm doing a lot better on lower dosage or Ariprizole (US trade name = Abilify) and higher dosage of Quetiapine fumarate (US trade name = Seroquel).

I hear ya . . . I've got a list of diagnoses too. It sounds like you are coping with the depression well. I used to cry from the time I woke up to the time I fell asleep.
I'm not where I want to be either, but I figure if I keep making progress then it's a victory.
Sorry you're having a rough time. *Hugs*

Should I f**k you?

No!

Seriously, does a post like person put belong in the Haven? It's a really bad joke.

Not that my original title was pleasant or nice, but it was an expression that fit the way I felt.

Even though I'm a pretty girl?

Ok, sorry. It was a bad joke

Oh dear, poor Frieslander. *hugs*

As for you nasty insensitive people: stop being mean!

I think you sabotage yourself and offend others by asking for support and then defining what exactly it is you want, and what you don't want, etc.

People don't really know all the ins & outs of you and your situation and what you prefer, etc. If you would ask for empathy and understanding it would be good to have empathy and understanding for those who genuinely respond, even if it is not to your narrowed desire.

But, OK. You got dealt quite the shopping list of crappy cards. Focusing on your negatives will probably just lead from bad mood to depression. You have to go with what you have thats good. So man up and go and get that girlfriend dude. Shes out there.

Sweet Pea hugs

I sort of feel like you're trying to manage my feelings/thoughts. And note, I used the term "sort of". I don't mean that's necessarily you're intention.

I don't mean to offend others but if you would explain how what I what would be offensive....

I didn't say you HAD to respond a certain way. I merely said what helps me, personally -- my thought is if you can't help somebody in The Haven when they have told how you how they can be helped, then maybe it's not a good idea to post in the thread. That's what I would I would try to do if someone in this forum needing help. (Note that I used the word "maybe" -- one can't always tell what will be helpful; sometimes you try and find it didn't work. I didn't really rail against the people who gave advice I didn't like or find helpful; I just pretty much told them THAT I didn't find it helpful.)

I've had psychotherapy / talk therapy for years and have tried my best to approach issues in the best way I can. It doesn't usually do any good just tell myself or have someone tell me to to think about the positives and not think of the negatives. Having overwhelming emotions in the brain can just lead to overwhelming negative obsessions, for me at least. Many years ago a psychiatrist told me, "You can stop obsessing about these things if you want to, Bill". He was wrong in my case.

No not trying to manage. Just trying to kick you out of the trench and get you moving again.

I agree with you. The shrink is wrong. I have overwhelming thoughts I can't stop. Woke up last night screaming bloody murder again just like I have many nights for 5 years. But I can control not acting on them.

Got bad obsessing thoughts ? You just can't remove them. You have to replace them with better ones. Your gonna obsess so try to gain some control by steering them towards something that will make you attain a goal, be happier, etc.

How? I wish I could tell you. Your just gonna have to get it done.

Good hunting.