Should I kill myself?

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95% of people dated by the time they're 18. I'm 20 and never dated. This probably means there's no way I'll ever be able to find a date. I don't see how the 95% is possible since dating is so competitive though.

The meaning of my life since preschool was to go out on a date and I can't even do that.

I feel that everyone on this forum likes their life but me.

I'm nearly 25 and I haven't been on a date. Should I have killed myself before my 21st birthday?

You really just don't want any woman - women are people, and a lot of them are very damaged, manipulative, aggressive, not compatible/suitable - just like men.

Focus on yourself and what you like doing and honing your talents first. The bigger deal you make it, the less it's likely to happen and the more women are likely to be put off by you.

Being seen as like a vast prize is unsexy and sort of frightening for any woman. I'm a man, and I find it creepy when women behave like that.

Just my £0.01.

I was 20 when I went on my first date. I ended up marrying him. We've been together 18.5 years.

Find a new meaning of life...I don't like that one. I'm sure you don't either.

I notice a lot of depressed and lonely people on these forums all the time. I'm positive you're not the only one who is unsatisfied with their life. It's ok to be that way sometimes. I don't think anybody in the world is 100% satisfied with their lives.

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... The meaning of my life since preschool was to go out on a date and I can't even do that. ...

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That's the most meaningless meaning i've ever heard about. Stop wasting time and energy with such crap and find something interesting to do. Even an obsession for shoeshine might offer more satisfaction.

I have never been on a date I am 48 today-I feel pathetic but its not a something I would end my life over-I would like to have someone in my life and someone to have intimacy with but its difficult.

DON'T DO IT.

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Here's an even better statistic-- 95% percent of all statistics are made up. Also, assumptions without evidence in themselves are a made up statistic.

I didn't have my first kiss till I was 21 and to be honest, if you had dated earlier before 18 with the whole lack of mens rea (lack of brain development at a young age to fully appreciate the consequences of your actions) you'd be one of the several awesome daters with 2 kids no money and flipping burgers/bagging grocceries doing your free time.

There's no rush, ..heck being even more real, girls were "attractive" before 18 but they weren't even fully developed cognitively or physically. Setting 18 as the bench mark "Oh this is the last year or else i'm a loser" is not healthy. THIS is the age you can leisurely take your time and get to know more people. Not off yourself. Twenty is ridiculously young, go out, go to stores, go to movies, go to college (best place to meet people) or heck get a job and meet people.

An experience you know nothing of.. is a figment in your head sorted by things you've heard from other people.

I doubt the statistic you quote is true, or if it is many of them had only very minor interaction and it was more of a formality.

Thats because it takes different people different ammounts of time to mature in different ways, and men I believe, mature slower then women, if at all.

So give yourself a break and realize there are a whole lot of people just like you who only start to meet & date others at much later times.

As others have said focus on your own development and in time it will happen.

I believe Monty Python said it best

"Some things in life are bad
They can really make you mad
Other things just make you swear and curse.
When you're chewing on life's gristle
Don't grumble, give a whistle"

Always Look on the Bright Side of Life (from Monty Python)
words and music by Eric Idle


Life goes on no need to end it over a kiss heck I join the ranks of the rest it sounds like of not dating till late 20's now married with kids. There is more to life then dates and statistically speaking 4 out of 5 people lie on statistics

You need to remember that dating, like most things in life, is nice but isn't actually some profound milestone. And like most things in life, the best way to approach it is to approach it "sideways", by setting your sights on something bigger. For example, maybe join a group based around a hobby.

I don't know how dating is the point of life, hardly seems a very good reason to kill yourself......simply not having dated yet.