Anyone felt like certain family members wish you were gone?

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I have lived a military life perhaps that's why I feel like this. I don't know. I always thought that families (parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins) who live near each other are very close and loving. Dad's family live in New Jersey. I have always felt that my uncle and cousin especially wish I were dead. I am the only child but I even believe at times my parents wish I was dead. I often wonder how their lives would be if I wasn't even born. No daugther with aspergers or LD to deal with, right? A normal daughter who is successful, smart, talented, beautiful, and independent. How can family members be such hateful to each other? Parents do it too! They love one child over the another, for what reason?? Any one else ever felt that certain family members just wish you were dead?

I've always thought that my parents wanted me dead, when I was a child with the way that they trying to raise the autism out of me.

That is exactly how I feel about certain family members. Some probably wish I wasn't around and others just seem to tolerate me. Sort of the "loser" of the family since I'm nothing like any of them.

Have they said anything to you to hurt you? My cousin thinks she's better than me because she is married and has kids. One time she had to nerve to get all snotty and told me that I'm wearing my Irish Claddagh ring wrong. I was in a relationship with a military man and it was very serious. It was just a cheap ring that I bought! Oh and on my grandmother's 90th surprise party my cousin completely ignored me. The party was held upstairs at this Italian restaurant. It's so easy to walk upstairs and say to your loved ones hello how are you doing, etc. She has no aspergers at all, yet doesn't have common sense? On her facebook page she completely brags about her kids and husband. So what! It kinda makes me feel worthless that she brags about them while I have no one. But then again I rather be alone than be married to her husband.

I have little in common with much of my family, and there are a few family members which just agitate me to no end. My grandfather in particular, I don't necessarily wish he died but more that I just had nothing to do with him. But since my family on that side is very close, and he lives a few miles away - him being dead sometimes seems a good option. I just can't stand the fact that he's such a miserable human being which hates anyone and anything which doesn't fit into his ideal views. He fails to understand my Asperger's, or doesn't care. He's becoming more openly racist, and loves playing the blame game on everything which he thinks makes the world around him suck.

It's tough yeah, so I just have been trying to minimize my contact with him ever since I moved out of my grandparents basement six months ago.

I'm told my brother resented me as a kid because I required so much attenttion from my parents. I feel like they are trying to blame me for it or make it out to be my fault.

I don't think that anyone wants another family member to die. If they did then they are ignorant of the loss that death brings on the material plane. Trust me, if you were gone they would feel it and wish that you would have never left. No one is that cold and if they are then they have certain issues that need to be brought to light. It is nothing that any of you should worry about.

Yea my mother said yesterday that she wished she never met my father and wished i was dead cause i'm "too difficult and stressful and fussy"" so hopefully i can get out of my family home in 12 months....as the saying goes wish me luck but as anyone knows there''s no such thing as luck

My mom m beat me and called me both a freak and a ret*d.

No, this have never happened to me and my brother. My brother has severe autism, I have Asperger's and Tourette's, but nor my parents neither my other relatives wished we were dead. Seeing so many messages like this one makes me think that we're the only people with ASD left in this world whose parents don't want them to die. Maybe we are. Duh.

I don't think anyone in my family wishes I was dead.....but sometimes I feel they might be better off if I was. Then none of them would have to worry about me and my mental issues or helping me out with shelter/money since I don't have income and would be on the streets if not for the help of family like my mom that does have a house. Of course I am trying to get that taken care of via SSI otherwise I don't have a lot of ideas aside from maybe apply at the headshops and hope really hard that one of them is hiring.