I don't think I'm lonely. I just want to be understood.

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Aharon
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23 Nov 2012, 5:40 pm

And if I listen to the imaginary person in the room ask me,"Understood how?" I would probably say I don't know...

BUT if I did know, people would understand these things about me:

Sometimes I talk a lot but sometimes I just want to be quiet.

There are days when doing the dishes is just too much, don't expect much out of me.

When I'm tired, I'm more apt to be inflexible, irritable, irrational, and uncompromising.

I don't like having plans changed. If they need to be changed, advance notice is greatly appreciated.

I don't like random visits.

I don't like being in rooms stuffed full of talking people. I'll do it for awhile, but when you can't find me, I'll be outside.

I don't always say what I mean, and no that's not an excuse to just say stuff.

Don't take it personally when I don't want to do anything.

I could literally eat and wear the same things forever and not get tired of it, as long as they are stuff I like.

I don't like loud, even though I might be loud at times.

I don't like bright, I'm not wearing sunglasses so I don't have to look at you (that just happens to be a plus).

If I do things throughout the day like make noises or shake my hands, I'm not creepy, I'm just blowing off steam like a pressure cooker. What steam? All the loud, bright, smell, touch, hear, talk, birds, horns, motorcycles, crying babies, beeping cash registers I've been stewing in all day.

Anyone else have something to add?


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23 Nov 2012, 5:46 pm

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29 Nov 2012, 8:12 am

I am not totally selfish and can "be there" for others.. Most of the time, I am trying really hard to keep it together so you don't have to go through the trouble of putting me together when I throw a tantrum. So from my point of view, I am going through so much effort to save you the trouble.


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29 Nov 2012, 11:16 am

That was a beautiful post. Everyone needs to feel understood, and it's so lacking sometimes.