Why talk about waht is upsetting me

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I had a meltdown earlier this night and it continued and yet why do my parents continue to want to talk to me about what I am melting down about so I cannot get calm yet a few miutes after I started to listen to music and calm down I finally get calmed down. I have told them this for years since I was a child and they seem to still not get it. Ah just listening to music and thinking about something else makes me feel better. Although now after a few minutes I feel better. I finally understand things. What started this was really my father informing me at my grandparents retirement home they do not allow me to be alone and have to be with someone all the time. Now this makes me feel unsafe and uncomfortable not being able to be alone. No one seems to understand that I feel most safe when walking alone at night. Why my dad does not seem to understand that makes no sense. Also if you tell me to watch something when I don't want to I feel horrible and never want to watch it for a while.

Woah! this sounds exactly like my life before I moved out. Now that I look back, my parents wanted to protect me but were not realizing that they were smothering me. I am too passive to tell this to them.

If you have a sibling, talk to him/her into supporting you when you bring this up to your parents the next time. Maybe it would help

You have a life of your own and your parents should not impose on your desire to be alone at times. Do they mean they must accompany you at all times and don't offer youany freedom? What exactly are they worried about, have you done any embarrassing things when out alone or are they just being over protective because of your supposed "disability". You should also not have to watch a particular show just because someone else thinks you should!

I'm glad you have music to relax to and de-stress you - use whatever method works best for you.

You need to slowly begin gaining a little independence step by step and show them that you are capable of being on your own. Having grown up with a very protective mother and stepfather myself, I understand your situation!