for those of us who were bullied

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http://www.montrealgazette.com/news/Bul ... story.html

As we are all well aware, bullying is a pervasive problem and Aspies are prime targets. (But it does not have to be). While bullying is associated with children, adult scenarios are too real also. If one is bullied as a child, then the likelihood they'll be victimized again is far greater. What is most perplexing is that bullying is ignored! Not only ignored, but oftentimes condoned. I'm sharing this article because it provides evidence that bullying in fact a real threat. Not only is it an act of violence, but it causes tangible damage. What a shame.

I really commend the Wrong Planet for addressing the bullying issue - a step in the right direction! I think we can do so much to overcome bullying.

I was bullied. but what can you do? Oh well. If I have any children they will be bullied too, maybe obama should do something about it!

I once started a thread that summarized my thoughts and feelings as a victim of chronic bullying. Here's the link...

Hi, I'm chronically bullied.

Thanks to fellow Wrong Planet members, I learnt that I'm not alone. (What else can we do to overcome bullying?)

I was bullied in school, and the odd consequence for saying something about it was everyone (even those in a position to help) abandoned me. When I mentioned being verbally harassed to the school counselor, she initially empathized. Then about a week later, she was cold as ice. I'm not sure what happened in the interim, but I lost my trust in people after that.

The ironic part is how people think that when you get out of school, you don't get bullied anymore.

What a crock.

I was bullied as a child and now I don't get bullied anymore. I never did in my teens either because we moved and we lived in a small town. But it did effect me and I had to get help in high school for it by seeing a shrink.

First it was the school "cool kids"... then it was the workplace popular crowd. *sigh*

People just seem to be able to instinctively *smell* a gentle person and pick on an easy target in order to make themselves feel powerful and triumph together as a team (team of brigands or monsters, that is!)

All the while thinking they're so damned good and wonderful... it's the creepy people that MUST be evil...

So true.

Sylkat

i got bullied in the 1st grade but my teacher and brother helped put a stop to it

I would say it's not the gentle people, it's the people who can't, won't or simply don't know how to protect or defend themselves.
Being able to take care of yourself is not a weakness, it's a necessity.
It would be great if other peoples sense of self-worth was not dependent on them comparing themselves to other people, hence them showing power over them in order to make themselves seem superior but that isn't going to happen anytime soon.

Probably the most sucessful way to stop being bullied is to stand up them. Its not easy, and having friends as your own support group helps. If you are unable to do that, and many can not, then going to the people in authority is the next step. If the people in authority can't help, move away from the environment. One way or another do not let them continue.

Possibly because of literal mindedness I stuck to rules against fighting even though others would give me a hard time verbally and sometimes physically. I was in a Catch .22 of following rules others ignored.

I sometimes think back that I should have abandoned the rules and fought them. Or even attempted to "Hire a bully" with saved lunch money to clobber someone.

I'm sure I would have been suspended or something but I think bullied people need to take matters into their own hands if there is no support from the authorities. The consequences will be bad but a person should not have to accept having their dignity ground into the dirt.

I do not condone using weapons or anything crazy though. This is just about self defense and sending a message. Also, it has to be considered bullies are probably the way they are from a fvcked up home life or from having older siblings even worse then they are. Because of this, I don't think they deserve severe grievous harm, but just a strong enough message to make them think about taking their troubles elsewhere.