My friend died

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I don't typically get along with too many people. Animals hold more weight sometimes. My horse died this week. Can't get my mind to stop thinking about it. Parents always taught me to write down the emotions that I cannot articulate. My other horse is grieving. Not much for people to understand if they do not own horses or have not studied their behaviors. Not dealing with all of this too well. Obsessive thoughts, for myself, have been quite manageable with age. I suppose it comes with loss regardless, but I have to be reminded to eat. Disgusted by people who wallow in self pity. I have more sympathy for my other horse at this point. Sounds like a pitiful animal lover, or something. I don't know.

You are not the one, I think I love animals much more than people, animals are true friends for me, while people can betray you.
Sorry for your loss.

sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry about them.

I'm not surprised that you're reacting this way though. I've often found horses and other animals to be better friends than most people are. Because they are better friends, I grieve more over them than I would a person, unless the person is extremely close. When you think about how much they do for you and how long you have had them, it's not really that surprising. During the time your other horse is grieving, it will probably hurt you worse, since often our empathy for animals runs deeper than the empathy we have for people. I'm not sure what I can recommend for your horse - perhaps put the others blanket somewhere where it can smell it when it feels like it? Sometimes somthing that smells like the other will calm them as much as is possible, it's somethig comforting and familiar from the other.

Setting an alarm for yourself to eat helps. I have to do that because of my bad memory, but it might work for you here too.

I'm sorry.
*hugs*

Thanks. Ya. Not too partial to people. On a positive note the other one is doing better. I don't know what it is. The spiritual connection between some with any level of autism and animals is one that I dare describe as mystical. I am unsure if any study has taken place as far as where these emotions come from in regards to grievance for animals, but it still hurts. And a part of me feels as though I am alive with these emotions, and another part of me could care less to have them. I do not have empathy for humans unless the situation is dire. The whole situation was pretty sh***y. But out of my control. I appreciate all of the sentiment. You guys rock.

I love animals as well, in fact that is how I started to connect to the world for the first time. I have lost a dear pet once that meant a lot to me. My dog is the one who basically saved my life. My dog died a few years ago, it was awful. I grieved for a long time. In fact for several days or weeks (maybe even longer) I would "see" her and hear her barks. This is even though she died. She died in a tragic way that I won't get into because right now you are grieving for your horse and how the other horse is dealing with the death. Animals can be true therapy and so can horses. I am sorry that you lost your horse. I have another pet right now and if he died, I would be devastated. He helps me during times of stress. He is a bird (green winged macaw to be exact). I obsess about him.

ITA with you!

What is ITA?

I'm so sorry you lost your friend. A friend of mine recently lost a mare she had since she was a 2 year old. She lived to be almost 40. I lost my horse due to dishonest people. I am still devastated almost a year and a half later and he is still living, just not with me. I can not imagine how you feel. Does your other horse have a pasture buddy? I'm glad to hear your other horse is adjusting.

I totally agree

You have my sympathy. I've been very bonded to some pets. And, it's a tough loss. True sadness is founded in something good. I'm sure you were good friend your pet and your pet was better off because of you. Many animals have a natural life span less than humans. It's fun getting a kitten, raising it to an adult, and hard watching it get old and die. However, the pet had a great life and we do a great job for our pets. So, while I feel personal loss for many of my pets, I'm not sorry for them. Actually, we are lucky when we are able to be good for a pet for its entire life. That really doesn't help the sense of loss, but the sense of accomplishment is great. So, give yourself a pat on the back, and say "job well done."

Sweet Pea hugs