My cat put down Xmas day

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He was my only family. It was just me and him. Now I have no one. The sadness is unbearable. I cant eat, drink, nothing.

I had him since the day he was born. The odds were he wouldn't make it without his Mum. He made it to 18.

But how am I going to live without him?

How?

i do not know what to say that could make you feel better.
my best friend i ever had was a black and white cat that became very old to the point where other family members shunned it, and only i loved it, and he became attached to me so much that he always wanted to be in my company because i did not care if he was a snaggletoothed old cat, i valued his love for me so much.

when he died (at the age of 22), i was devastated and i ran around screaming "why?!?!?"
how could such a beautiful relationship be destroyed by just "time"?
i learned in a brutal way that everything must come to an end, and there are no miracles.

one day i will also die, and no living thing shall ever escape death. what a desolate outlook.

i hope your cat is either free from pain, or better, having a wonderful time "being" without the constraints of it's previous mortality.


sorry i am not good at consolation, but i have experienced the feeling of my "little precious one" being ripped from my arms and rendered lifeless. it hardened me somewhat. there was nothing i could do but "accept" it.

*giant-sized huggy*

I'm so sorry to hear that aspiesandra27. Big hugs to you.

Here is a good link:
In-loving-memory-of-our-animals-who-have-gone-to-rainbow-bridge

I'm so very sorry. You gave him a good life. I know that doesn't make it hurt any less, but 18 years when he wasn't expected to survive kittenhood - that is really something. He was a very lucky cat to have you.

Just try to get through the next few days. You won't be in this much pain forever.

Remember proudly how happy you made him, and how fortunate you have been by being able to give him love and a good life.
I've had cats die on me, and it is heart breaking, but over time you will feel better.

That is so sad, I am really sorry.

You will just have to take time to grieve, it is a long process. In time the pain won't be so acute, but you will always miss him. Try and remember that you gave him a lovely life and that he loved you as much as you loved him. He wouldn't want you to be ill and upset.

In the meantime, try and at least drink something if you can. If you want to talk about him, or about anything you can PM me.

Holy hell.

I am really sorry. I am constantly wondering
how I would handle to death of my cat as well,
as I consider him my only family.

OMG... I know that feeling. I've lost a beloved pet long ago... I wish I could comfort you.

I have chocolate cake, a comfy couch and a good movie. I'll put a pillow on the couch with your name taped to it so you can pretend you're here for a good hug.

After a brief mourning, you might take some comfort in going to the pound and rescuing another kitty from certain death! I hope you'll have a new beloved furry friend!

I'm sorry for your loss. While I don't tend to understand massive grief over the loss of a pet, 18 years is a long time and I can understand how he's become a major part of your life. I've worked at vets offices here and they have numbers for support groups for losing a pet, which they give to people whose pet dies or has to be put down. I'd really suggest finding out if there is something like that where you live, I'd imagine it can help you process your feelings and hopefully get through this time easier.

I'd imagine that after having him so long, taking care of him and all has become so ingrained that it's truly part of your everyday life and a knee jerk reaction, so you automatically go to feed the cat or change the litter box and then remember all over again that he's gone, so it's much more than "I miss my cat", it's a constant reminder. I've heard both good and bad things about getting a new pet right off, so I don't know what to suggest, I'd just say go with what you feel about that. A new one might remind you of him too much, then again it might help focus you on the new cat. A new cat won't be the same, by any means, but it could help you.

Please look for a support group in your area, or even an online group for people who have lost pets. I'm sure that talking about it to people who have been through it would be some help, even though time is really the only thing that will make you feel truly better.

Thank you everyone. I am grateful for your kindness. That's when you see who people are.

x

I have a cat who is almost 14 years. She was a stray whom I found at 3 months. She is my family, just like every cat I have had. You are so nice to have given a kitten a full life. Non-pet people claim that you really cannot 'talk to' your pet and relate, but we know better.

My pet sitter cat passed on, and thought that getting a new cat was a good solution, at least for her. In that situation, I would probably do the same thing.

In my experience, those that we share love with never really leave us.

He will always be in your heart.

Makes me think of the Sailor Moon episode where Molly grieves for Nephlite.

Bit late here but sorry for your loss. Between my siblings and I, we've had a lot of lost pets. A cat, a bird, two dogs, and a whole bunch of hamsters. I was devastated at the death of my first, but by the last hamster I was kind of desensitized, which is kind of awful. I felt more terrible about the fact I pretty much neglected him because I'd been too afraid to get attached to him and forgot he existed.

We have five cats now, and they've all been around for more than a few years already. Had a scare when Trouble stopped eating for whatever reason some time ago, but things seem fine now. I don't know how I'll react when they're gone. I know I'll definitely be sad, but it feels like with most of what life's thrown at me, I don't really care to bother grieving anymore.

I don't know about getting a new pet. I would not want to replace anyone or get a new pet for that sole purpose. And not immediately, either, as I don't think anyone in that state of mind is really equipped to handle taking care of an animal. Personally, I don't think I'll ever be responsible enough to do so by myself. Something tells me that I'll be living a solitary life eventually, and while I'd be paranoid living alone, I wouldn't want to subject a pet to living with me.