How to help some on the verge??

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I know that there are programs and hot lines for suicidal people but this person wont take the help or even admit there is some thing wrong. This person who is on the spectrum is going threw changes in home life. This person wont out right commit suicide but has done thing that show complete disregard for personal safety and own life. One example rode a motorcycle the other day during a snow storm with 2 inches snow on the road. I want to help but I'm the cause of some of the issues this person is dealing with. How to help some one see that its the same wither you use a gun or run risks till you fail. Ideas please I don't want to see this person fail.

There is little to nothing that can be done when someone does not admit anything is wrong. He will continue taking risks as long as he wants.

Doesn't it seem as if friends involved in highly risky behavior are just begging us to look away; to avert our gazes? Perhaps if you do look away he will relent eventually. Find a way for yourself to live through this; that may be the most loving reaction you might offer.

We don't have to admit defeat to be saved. You can help your friend without getting them to make themselves vulnerable. Just be there for them and the next time they want to do something risky just tell them you are genuinely worried and if you could do something else that might be thrilling yet not as dangerous. Let them know you are there for them. Also if this person hasn't said they are suicidal they might not be. Maybe they are just desperate for a new outlook on life and some excitement? A rut could be the cause for depression. And with a supportive friend like you they are unlikely to fail:)

I received several calls he as doing faster than 75 on roads that no one was going over 45 on. Hes intention are clear but he isn't going to talk to me.

If you're a spiritual type maybe you can just pray for him that he can resolve the issues before its too late and he has some type of accident. If he won't talk to you, thats all you can do for now, until he's ready to talk to you. Continue giving support from a distance and just be there when he does need you.

You can't If hes ready to go he will if hes not he wont. He wont be help one way or another. Sorry just know/am him better than any one else. Praying might ease your mind. He's been praying for peace one way or the other.

Don't take this as general advice it is not, it is specific to this one person.