Aspergers (female) friend don't call???

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I made a post earlier about a girl (who's has Aspergers) and I noticed that she never calls, although I do call and talk to her. We have hung out once and plan to again, but I noticed she doesn't call. She said she called once (although got voicemail), but that was before we hung out for the first time.

Is this a typical trait of girls with Aspergers? Is she maybe afraid to call or what? I would assume that if she didn't want to hang out, she would have made an excuse not to... I also am aware that many of them don't like the small talk stuff, but I did tell her she could call if she wanted to (although it is a work cell phone).

Does this mean anything?

I don't know, Maybe she does not like to call people or talking on telephone. I don't like calling people, unless it is absolutely necessary.
Maybe she does not call because she is not interested.

I avoid the phone like the plague. Anyone and everyone that knows me knows to text me first and let me know that they are about to call me. That way I get prepared for the phone call. Preferably even all my communication is through texting.

I have a lot of auditory issues and they magnify on the phone... maybe try texting with her if she has a cell and see how that goes.

I despise the phone and avoid it if at all possible. I'm horrible about calling people, and I'm so awkward talking on the phone, it's draining. Maybe try email or texting if you can.

It's certainly a "me" trait.
Besides hating the phone, the reason why I avoid calling people is that while I like some people, I dislike socialising.

I never ever call people, not even my boyfriend. I either text or IM at all times and all my friends know not to call me unless it's a dire emergency. The only exception I make is for my grandparents.

You're overthinking it. She probably doesn't like talking on the phone. I certainly don't.

To sirhawkeye: I'm sorry that I'll be presenting the worst-case scenario to you here. I hope that the real reason why she hasn't called you yet is that she dislike communicating via phone calls.

Worst-case scenario: "Since many people have already rejected me, from now on, I should reject people before they reject me. Otherwise, I'll experience the sting of rejection once again."

Is there a special cause to call you? So did you say you call each other to make special arrangements before a meeting?

I think in my whole life I never called someone, just to call someone. Or called someone because I got boring. Thats if I became the idea of cleaning the windows, because I am bored.

If I have no cause to call someone, I wouldnt even know what to say: "Hi." ..... ? And calling is anyway garbage. So people expect you to know how you feel and so on, and that doesnt even function when the person stands right befor me. On the phone I only have a crippled voice with lousy speech quality, making it exhausting to hear, but I shall guess how other people feel from that noises. -.-

I´d guess, write her an E-Mail and give it a cause. Maybe an event she could be interested with, or meeting her to play something or anything?

I don't call either. People hate that.

I hate bothering people by phoneing and not knowing what they are doing, I often call home phones when the person isn't going to be home so I can leave a message, then the person can call when they want to, if they want to. Cell phones are 10x worse or this, usally the person is driving or something and I tend get into typical longwinded aspie talks that lead to phone bill agression by the other person. I'd just call her, if she dosen't want to be talked to she can use caller display to ignore, an aspie godsend

I don't like talking on the phone-I find it really awkward and difficult to know what to say when. I prefer written communication, like facebook, email and texting. People on the spectrum do often have difficulty handling telephone communication.