People not respecting my choices

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For meny years my family mainly dad has been on me to start making choices or myself and to be more asuretive with my opinons, to be less dependent on others for my lifes direction, as in being more independant.

6 months ago I stated meny times I would not go to a year end sport related banquet. I told him not to buy tickets, why I did not want to go, social talking boardom, waste of time, money, enegry drain, dinner I won't care for, people drinking, got other things I want to do, don't enjoy, mentally painful etc. if you are an aspie you will likely get it. I have attended this event before with others so I know what happens. When he got tickets a couple months ago I told him to sell them, I did that meny times. Now he is getting very upset with my resistence but why? I made my choice clear well in advance and made it known to meny.

No wonder I leave so meny choices to my parents becouse they just get overridden anyway. I really feel like digging my heels in on this one becouse I feel I have good reason, even though its likely to lead to a fight and a meltdown, I can see it now.

Maybe its a fight over nothing to most however I feel like i'm not being respected, its not the first time and I have some choices to make regarding the same sport coming that will likely see simular conflicts, eventhough I pay the majority of the costs now, once again my choices are overridden.

Are you opposed to underhanded tactics, so to speak? You could very easily create a means before this event to not be within reach when they need to leave... You made your objections clear and want to do good things for yourself, right? You first on this one - be independent and see how they like it, if they don't there's always "F*** off". Reiteration for independence, they won't necessarily like it but hey.

Kinda hard to disapear since I live at home and the things I want to do at that time involve the TV, not at his home though. I would do anything to avoid conflict I hate fighting, usally end up crying.

Just getting frusterated that if my choices arn't in line with dads they appear to get written off as a product of AS thinking. Then theres the light switch beleaf that I can just try harder and just turn it off for a few hours at will so I will agree and enjoy the things he wants me to. I have skiped out of meny wedings, banquets, dinner partys and events before so this shouldn't be a shocker. I really feel I have to dig in on this or i'm going to get pushed around even more in the comming months.

I feel so stupid when I make a choice only to have it overturned, better to just keep slient all along. Some people want in on certin parts of my life, good parts i'm running quite well only to try to take control and run it for their own good and pleasure.

Do you live in your dad's house? I can't quite tell from your posts.

No I don't, I live with mom and have for most of my years, ever since the divorce. same city though, have maintained a pretty close relationship though, make contact most days.

Lest we forget that nt's dont think with the same detail accuracy, theres by all means a way for you to pull something out of your ass. My two exploits to that extent are that they cant read you as well as others making it harder to recognize a performance, and two you have interests that dominate your day. Get wrapped up in a new interest at the library or ebgames whatever and lose track of time, its very convenient because youve likely had to say sorry for this type of thing before anyway

Frowny face time: I HATE being written off in the manner you mention. Its being exploited is all it is, and someone lies to you when they say you arent able to do the same thing. Exploit something, its mainstream.