My Uncle Just DIED!

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HELP

Never been to a furnal.
Never missed school.

When you at the funeral, and you emotions become strong, just cry and let them all out.

As for the School part, you might want to see if you can catch up on missed assignments and Homework, during Lunch Hours and Study Blocks.

I've experienced a loss like that, a while ago. My Uncle died of a Heart Attack in 2001, within a month of my Grandpa's death. They both died of Heart Attacks and they were both petite men. I was very shocked, suprized and disturbed.

You can get through this! I have faith in you.

It's ok, just sit as far towards the back as you can, and if there is a viewing, stay away from the casket.

I'm sorry .

Staying away from the casket may not be entirely necessary, just depends. If its an open casket, for me personally that's a big stay away if possible. For my grandfather's funeral, it was really difficult because I had to deal with seeing him "there," but not. If it is closed, that will be easier. Just do what you feel you need to do, whatever you feel is appropriate. If anyone tells you that you are "obligated" to do something at the funeral, if you think its unreasonable or you'll have a hard time doing it then say so. Everyone's going to be upset about things, they will understand that you are as well, and should be more understanding in general.

For class, the teachers will understand that you need to miss school. They may cut you a break on some of the work, or offer you more time for it, or something along those lines. If you need help with any of the work, just let them know, and most will probably be willing to help you with it some outside of class. It isn't like you will be penalized for going to his funeral, most anyone at whatever school you go to, be they student, teacher, hell, even the cleaning lady, they would all prefer being there than being at a funeral, and having to deal with that kind of loss.

Latch onto somebody much older - the older the better, Ask them if you can stick near them because you're nervous, it's your first time.

Re funeral - there might be a guest book open on a stand. If so, sign your name legibly and have some little phrase ready in case there's room for one - 'I love him so much" or "he's such a wonderful man" or prayerful if your family is.

There should be a family member greeting everybody on the way. If you're with somebody older, just do what they do. If you're alone, approach this greeter and say, "I'm so sorry." Then they'll hand you off to the other relatives inside.

Many relatives say odd things, or things that sound rude or thoughtless. That's because they're in shock, Let it go.

You'll be very tired and shouldn't sleep alone for a few days.

I'm very sorry for your loss, can you tell i'm a compulsive advice-giver. Please take care of yourself, Get your sleep, meals.

I suspect that death of family and friends is a hard time for aspies. The funeral part being very confusing. Not knowing how to act. Not sure if you can cry but at the same time emtionally troubled by it. I've lost track of the number of funerals I been to. The
last was the easiest my cousin was an atheist and was cremated. There was non of the religion crap.

Aww poor you.

I was sad when my nan died, and my mum didn't make me come to the funeral because she thought I was going to be confused, and more upset with what was going on.

I think it was best that I didn't go anyway.

I was about 7 at the time.

Aw, sorry to hear about your uncle, Flow.

My condolences on your loss Flow.

I agree. I remember the viewing of my grand grandmother. Everybody had been prepared for the loss so I think it was easier for everyone. I found myself nervous, and vaguely sad. I paced around a lot. I think I teared up a few times. I felt somewhat "lost," as well. I felt like my mind was out of my control.

Sorry!! !

Thank you guies so much.
I am so confused.
I feel to many emotions, which ones are right?
sad, because he died
happy/relived because he hated me, but not really, it was probally his ciggratte addiction
netuarl, because life willl go on
embarressed, because I don't care enough
HELP

If I was in your position Flow, I would be feeling sad for a few days until it all blows over, and then I would feel neutral.

This is how I felt when my nan died.