Venting and frustration

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I figured this would be best posted here. I just cannot stop thinking about my appointment with the psychologist and it's frustrating me to no end because I feel like the psychologist got it wrong now, for silly reasons. It doesn't help that everyone I've talked to on here and in real life think I am on the spectrum and that the psychologist is using male based criteria, and faulty criteria at that. It especially got me upset to read a thread that had actually been posted a few months back about how many diagnosed aspies can read body language, facial expressions, and emotions, which are all the things that got me the "not on the spectrum" results. I don't know. I just don't think I was given a fair shot maybe?

It's not like getting a diagnosis one way or the other changes anything about myself... maybe I'm frustrated because I don't want to be a "self-diagnosed-aspie"... Maybe because it's not fair to use male based criteria to diagnose females... maybe because I feel like she's judging me based on 4 hours of testing, 2 of which were spent asking me questions. Maybe because when she described me, she described the typical aspie female and then said I wasn't... It's freaking confusing. And I confused her! I over analyze things, I use logic and reasoning, yet I'm imaginative, creative, and artistic. Everyone seems so dead set on blaming everything on my depression, but I was weird before my depression... And besides, I HATE when people say, "Oh you're just depressed" because that line has been used on almost every single family member in a hospital and then they DIE of a treatable cause! I went in to the ER when I was 38 weeks pregnant because I was having a lot of trouble with confusion, dizziness, headaches, blurry vision... and I was told I was just depressed. I have had depression for over 16 yrs, I know what depression feels like. So after a psychiatrist came in to talk to me and then cleared me saying I was fine, they still sent me home without looking at why I was freaking there in the first place.

There aren't many answers for this dilemma except get a second opinion. I can only afford the limited resources my insurance covers as we're in the red this month, so I either save up or try to talk to the psychologist again... But I have no idea what to do, or if it's even correct to try to tell her she got it wrong. Because what if everyone else is wrong and I'm not an aspie? What if I'm just plain weird and socially inept? I'll hopefully be able to get her full report next week to go over... ugh. Just a couple more days.