How can I cheer myself up without loosing hope?

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The girlfriend I was with a few years back now is on my mind a lot and we weren't even that close because she wanted us to get to know each other better first and her mum stopped her from going out with me because of me being mentally unstable and stuff so we feel apart, and she would be friends at least if I didn't contact her for a year (I went a bit OTT with trying to talk to her so I don't blame her tbh) but it's been over a year and she hasn't accepted the friend request I sent her.

Basically I need a way so not getting depressed over her blatantly not caring about me or anyone else for that matter without completely loosing hope of anything good happening to me which usually leads to suicide attempts.

To clear up a few things up first:

* Hobbies do work in the short term, but in the long term I have the same net amount of dung screwed up inside.
* Same goes for taking my mind off it in anyway; always come back to bite me...
* True, love isn't everything, but where there is non there is gap of which there's no compensation for... for me at least. In other words, it makes me happy... but more than that, it... oh nevermind, this is not meant to be a lecture on love.
* As for finding someone else I've tried and failed. I've find plenty physically attracting but even without even knowing my ex that well I can see so much more in her personality than these others. I mean it's not even the thought provoking stuff like with her strong views it's the trivial matters like take her profile picture fo example - it's one of those wooden toy things that is holding a cup of tea or coffee for her, you just don't get that with other people.

I wish I could offer some advice, but I'm not very experienced when it comes to relationships. I've lusted over people, but never approached anyone for several reasons.

In any negative situation, it can be helpful to speak to someone about it, though. Feel free to PM me.

You are 18 and male.

When I was 18 the last thing I wanted was an LTR. There are LOADS of women out there and it makes zero sense to get hung up on one.

There is no need to romanticise the one that got away. It sounds like it was the mother who ruined things by scaremongering. How exactly did she acquire her information? Was it based solely on AS? Do you really want her as a mother in law?

Maybe you can see more in your Ex's personality because you just know her better? You will find "uniqueness" in everyone if you look.

Well we met in a psyciatric ward, so...




But it's not her mother I'm in love with. And she clearly respects her mother greatly so that isn't a bad thing a far as she's concerned at least.




Well it sounds but wierd but it's something I hold to be true, she's 'more unique' than most. As in, a lot of girls just like stuff because it's mainstream or there friends like it, and out of the ones that don't, well their personalities and interests just don't gell will mine. This girl however we suited each other better than I could have hoped, and she strives out as an individual rather than be a sheep.

Your loss will always come back as a haunting mist upon the flowing waters of your mind, so my advice to you is look across the horizon instead of the shore.

The only way to deal with a hole is to fill it. I know you believe no one can replace the one you lost but it is very likely to be untrue. If a relationship is of great importance to you, then work on being a good person to have a relationship with. There are others out there that you will also find totally attractive. Time will slowly make your loss fade & one day you will remember it, but will not feel any emotional pain any longer.

Sweet Pea hugs