Why am I so ungrateful?

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I share a locker with my colleague and friend at work. That's okay, we get on very well. I keep my lemon barley in there and she decided to buy the same drink, but now I don't know which is mine, she said its okay we can share, but for some reason I only want to drink my own. I don't want to share, even though I will gain from this. Every time I go to get a drink I have a mini panic and stand staring at the two identical bottles hoping mine will somehow 'identify' itself to me! That's ridiculous, I know.
Anyway, I've been struggling with this for a week or so and thought I would get used to it and then yesterday she says, "what do you think, we get lime next Time?".
"Errrr," I'm flabbergasted, I don't want lime, I still want lemon, I don't know if i Like it, dont know if I want to, don't want to try it, I just want lemon. Why am I so unreasonable. This has caused me distress And she was being so kind. So i think i agreed to the lime. What I will does buy another ottle of my usual stuff and pretend i Forgot she was doing that. That will be okay.

My issue is that I feel bad, but why is she trying to change things? I have spoken to her many times about not liking change and surprise among other things. Am I awful?

Which reminds me, I have also been criticised for having the same packed lunch everyday...it's what I like!! ! Why does it bother people?


All these typing errors I blame on the iPad ...

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solution: try lime and then let her know you don't like it and switch back to lemon.

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depending on how well she knows you, just come out and say you're really sorry but sharing drinks with anyone freaks you out.

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just give it a genuine effort. you'll probably get used to it eventually and you may even enjoy lime, who knows lol.

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You're not "ungrateful", that is guilt speaking. You are mildly resentful, because someone is interfering in your natural order of things, and it feels like they are trying to force a change upon you, and "dealing" with this is taking you out of your comfort zone, especially as it seems you are motivated not to cause upset to this person.

You like your Lemon Barley, and just want that to be accepted and left to get on with it, pre-empt by buying Lime AND Lemon Barley yourself. This will demonstrate generosity of spirit and willingness to consider her request seriously which will make her more receptive to your grinning and saying "I just really love my lemon, but I can appreciate you might feel like a change so I got you a present".

Just my .02