Loneliness desperation

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whats the most desperate thing you did to get away from your loneliness?

but whats the worst you did under influence of loneliness to get away from that pain

i did horrible things inorder to get away from loneliness

i remember chatting with random people online
and then exchanging phone numbers
and ending up meeting some of them
who were only in pursuit of exploiting me

my god i couldnt see it coming
and was duped several times.

I feel sadness for you.

It's an awful experience to reach out for comfort, only to be exploited for someone else's amusement; but the most terrible feeling is loneliness, which is close at hand to the feeling of being unloved. In my case, the dread of loneliness was greater than my fear of bondage to another abusive person, so we got married.

(My father and my first wife had many common traits, so I thought I could handle her behavior.)

Someone once advised me to embrace my loneliness as 'Solitude' and to take advantage of it to draw closer to God. If you have any beliefs in Divinity, then maybe this can work for you.

Otherwise, I would not seek relief in people, as they can all behave like real caṇḍāla, given half the chance.

I've dressed in ways that make me cringe now in an attempt to get people to pay attention. I've gone on internet sites and stripped down (as a minor). At some point I realized that even though I knew from the beginning that those people were only after something to fuel their sick thoughts (mainly my body), it didn't "help" my loneliness at all. I was further pushing myself down with the thought "if I'm going to lose, I want to lose on my own terms".

The turnaround was when I learned to live with myself. I found that I, myself, wasn't so bad. That I could entertain myself and pursue things that I thought were cool, and it helped me take my mind off of the things that were bothering me and my own self-pity over how many people disliked me. You are your own greatest enemy and your own greatest friend. There is the potential for both.

I'm not sure how this is helpful, but I hope that you know that you aren't the only one who is lonely and that brings you a bit of peace, no matter how small.

Hello. First, I want to apologize in advance for possible writing mistakes. I am not a native English speaker since I am European. Second, I am also sorry if I am explaining my situation in the wrong topic.
I am (and I always have been) struggling with social interactions. It's like there's an invisible wall between me and the others... I never know what to say and how to act, and I always tend to be quite and shy in social situations. As a consequence, I tend to avoid them since I feel very uncomfortable... I usually find conversations uninteresting and I always think that my inputs are just ridiculous. I am feeling more and more isolated in time. At first, I thought I could get used to it and focus just on my studies. But I don't. Even though I dislike to be around people, I don't like to be alone either.
I was diagnose to have Asperger's Syndrome very recently and I have no idea how to communicate that to people, even to my parents. I really want to be honest with them, but it happens that the distance between us had become bigger and bigger over last years. If someone could give me some advice I would be very grateful.
Best regards.

Anything I have done to get away from loneliness isn't something I like talking about, not because its morbid, but just because I feel stupid for doing them, I would do the dumbest things to be accepted by so called friends only to have them laugh and exploit me, and for most of my childhood I would say I was quite naive. Now that I am older and wiser, even though I am only 19 I feel wiser, I when I feel lonely I talk to someone about it. I also play a lot of online games so I also have friends that I know online that I can talk to and hang out with, this helps with the loneliness, mainly because for some reason when I game I forget all about my issues in life.