Having to going out at rush hour, to see good friend

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I have a man liking me who's on the bus, and we spoke last week and got to know each other a little. We're not in a relationship yet but I know that it is leading to a relationship. I didn't get to give him my phone number, and we don't know each other's surname yet, and I am looking for him on facebook by typing in his first name and the town he lives in and also the name of the company he works for, but it still hasn't come up with him, and I've searched through every single possible person that has the same name and is in the town he lives in, and still can't find him, and he can't find me and he said he's definitely on facebook, just like I am.

He also said that he's on the bus tomorrow (Monday), and so I could see him then and get his number or some more facts about him so we can find each other's name up on facebook and go from there. But there is only one little problem. He said he's on the bus at 4, and 4 is a bad time to be out in the town where I've got to get home from, because that is when all the school kids are coming out of school, and it gets a little rough when they all come out of school. I hate teenagers anyway (most of them), and they tend to hang about in groups and find it funny to intimidate people like me. I am not scared of them or anything, but I do hate feeling humiliated by strangers, especially if they are kids. Usually I always avoid being out after 3.30 on a school day. It's such a shame because I really need to see him as soon as I can. Also there is always a small chance he might not be on this bus, sometimes they change their shifts at the last minute and then I'd be wasting my time.

What do you think? Should I just safely get on the buses before the horrible rush hour, or shall I just take a deep breath and risk staying behind for an extra hour in the town when all the school kids are about, and just hope and pray that he will be on the right bus? I know he will be happy to see me getting his bus again, because I don't normally get it (luckily I decided to get it last week, but it was the school holidays then. This week the kids are all going back to school).

I lean in the direction of trying to see him and taking the later bus. In those situations, I try to prepare ahead of time by trying to make myself feel as secure as possible. Wearing clothes that make me feel secure versus choosing something at the last minute and finding out it does not fit well or the socks don't match. If you had a friend or family member to go with you would be nice (if their presence would not intimidate him). Also, mentally prepare myself to be calm if I feel anyone is bothering me.

I would go if I were you. I understand that you are very uncomfortable around other people like that but the discomfort of having to do that will be over with once you get home but if you don't go, the regret that you may have lost a chance to find a great guy will be with you for much longer.

So, I'd weigh it out. Compare the level of discomfort you will have while you're out and the amount of time you'll feel it with the negative feelings of regret and anger at yourself for losing a chance and the amount of time you are likely to think about and be effected by them.

If you don't take chances you never get or do anything in life, you don't get hurt but you also don't get happy either. And one thing to remember, please, that really helped me when I was a lot like you in that I always felt that people were judging and laughing at me (and still do to a certain extent, sometimes more than others) is that your most humiliating and embarrassing moment is nothing more than someone else's momentary amusement. In other words, you'll remember it but they will forget it within ten minutes.

Here's a song for you, I think it's the truth too.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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I think you should go and see him. It might turn into something more in the future.

No risk, no reward.

Thanks for your replies. It has helped me feel more encouraged, and I will give it a shot today, and see how it goes.

Good luck! While you are out there, if you get nervous and all distract yourself by mentally composing a post for WP telling us what all went on while you were out.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
My forum is still there and everyone is welcome to come join as well. There is a private women only subforum there if anyone is interested. Also, there is no CAPTCHA.

The link to the forum is http://www.rightplanet.proboards.com

Well I done it today but he wasn't on it, instead some horrible thing I never seen before, but never mind, I will try again on Friday. At least now that I have gone out during the time that makes me most anxious, I found it wasn't as daunting as I thought it would be, and I will do it again.