Even in death, he still effects others

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If you have read some of my posts before you are aware of the abuse I have been subject to. I discovered that one of my abusers passed away, and despite my PTSD still effecting me, I thought "he won't be able to harm anyone else." Apparently, that is not true. His actions, via cause and affect, are still hurting those I care for. This man had many victims, and I was informed that one of them, a young man, recently subjected one of my youngest relatives to the same type of mistreatment. Upon hearing this I had the most severe meltdown I've had in months; a complete raging episode. The anger was so severe that the physical stress it put me under caused my nose to bleed profusely. I feel helpless and unable to protect anyone from this type of abuse and the distress this is causing within my family. Never have I felt so weak. I really need suggestions on how to cope with this anger.

I can't help except to offer a heartfelt hug, and to hope that you manage to achieve peace.
To overcome what this waste of oxygen has done to you would be to spit on his grave.

You have my sympathy, that's a horrible situation. I haven't ever been in a situation like that, so my advice may be useless, but in my experience, anger is more-or-less like poison for the soul, and it tends to feed on itself. The only way I know of to deal with it is to let it go. The anger you have is justified, and I doubt you'll be able to consciously control all of it, but if you can let go of some of it, it might help you feel better. I'm not suggesting that you forget it all, or that you try to think that it's all ok (it really isn't), or that the perpetrator doesn't deserve your anger, just that you should try to avoid holding onto your anger, if you can.

I've dealt with some anger recently and that helped, but it was over a much, much less severe situation, so I don't know how well it might work for you. In any case, I hope you feel better soon.

I guess that's probably why I still drink like a fish. Deep in my sub coconscious I still have unresolved issues. Hopefully you'll do better than me.

Keni- Your heartfelt hug is appreciated and I am trying to find peace but it has been very difficult.

Ancalagon - I can't seem to let go of much of this "poison" simply through mental effort, but I am discovering that I can, in a way, expel it from myself through physical exertion. I basically exercise until I am too tired to be very angry. The anger is still present but it issubdued.

redrobin62- I am far too much of a "lightweight" to "drink like a fish".

Keni- Your heartfelt hug is appreciated and I am trying to find peace but it has been very difficult.

Ancalagon - I can't seem to let go of much of this "poison" simply through mental effort, but I am discovering that I can, in a way, expel it from myself through physical exertion. I basically exercise until I am too tired to be very angry. The anger is still present but it issubdued.

redrobin62- I am far too much of a "lightweight" to "drink like a fish".

When I have been really angry, I found things like hammering nails back down on my roof, or chopping firewood helped.
You get to be physically violent but also produce something useful.